I've been into PUA for about 2 months (summertime) now and have had very few chances to practice due to certain limitations (i.e. too young for bar, too old for high school girls, no car, etc.) and i'm sick and tired of goddamn oneitis. even though i've been studying the venusian arts, i keep going back to my AFC habits and getting serious oneitis...

tonight is one of those nights that i figured out (yet again) that my oneitis isn't gonna work. i keep on thinking that i can just skip all the PUA stuff and get a girl as if i were a natural, but no. once school starts i'm going to try harder at defining my fledgling PUA skills.

i just want to know how do you guys get past this stage i'm stuck at? i'm between AFC and PUA right now and in terms of women and a social life, i'm drowning... it's been a very long summer and i hate to say i'm actually looking forward to school so that i can start talking to women again... ha ha

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Peace,

Love John

"The cure for one-itis, PUAs like to say, is to go out and have sex with a dozen other girls- and then see if this flower is still so special." Style

Dude, there's nothing stopping you from hitting the mall and sarging.
If you're having trouble with AA, start by asking girls for directions. Then go into opinions.

If you set small goals for yourself the first day and build on that.

day 1 "ask for directions"
day 2 "ask for directions, time constraint, ask opinion, exit"
day 3 "open with opinion, time constraint, tell a story, exit"
etc.

Before you realize you'll be going through all steps with the beautiful women you deserve.

Peace,

~ LJ

Bookstores
Coffee shops
Staff in clothes stores
shopping areas


Dude...the biggest thing that holds people back from AFC to PUA is excuses.

they have 100 reasons why they can't try something or it doesn't work, yet they never just go and do it.

Do it.

Go out there an get the practice under your belt with as many girls as possible.

the first thing that will happen is that you'll begin to learn what works and what doesn.t

The second thing is that you will get to see that your oneitis is no more special than any other girl out there and can move on from her too.

you have to do it to see change.

AFC Adam,

Staff at clothing stores, restaurants etc... those are def good ideas. I am a girl and I think those places may seem unconventional places but I remember back when I would work as a hostess I would think "I hope some cute guy comes today." So just because women are working, doesn't mean they can have some fun too! Or if you work somewhere like this that is good too because you can approach them as if you are trying to help them with something.

dammit you're right.

i've just been making excuses, i'm good at that... well, just gotta dive right in i suppose.

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Peace,

Love John

"The cure for one-itis, PUAs like to say, is to go out and have sex with a dozen other girls- and then see if this flower is still so special." Style

you have to find your groove.

If you have natural game already, even a little, dont drop it for book game.
Always go with your instincts first, then use pu to smooth out your kinks.
You need to find your spot between game and natural game.

And thats bull, just because u cant go to bars doesnt mean you cant practice game, you can use game anywhere, so get to it.

Good luck man

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--Brad