That's right. You can't win them all. One of my biggest downfalls (I realize now) was after every successful pickup I would keep seeing all the girls. It was an exhausting process. I can say statistically I am on good terms with maybe 10% of the girls I picked up. The rest they either left me or I let them go or it was a mutual end. I'm noticing this is taking a toll on my inner game. The 90% failed relationships are just a way of me realizing illusions of things wrong with me. Don't fall into this trap. I'm writing this so you are all aware of another possible way of hurting your self-esteem. Do not let women get the reaction they want from you.

Maybe I'm being an emo-sappy piece of shit. Maybe I have a point. Right now I'm going through some inner turmoil of convincing myself that my failed "relationships" have nothing to do with things wrong with me. Picking up chicks was a way of me getting the attention I love. Now what hurts the most is just as easily as I picked them up, they can go away. Pick your targets carefully, it's the quality of the girl not how many you can pick up. Pick who you want, not the easiest girl to f-close. In the end it all pays off.

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I'm addicted to facing my fears.

IF it makes you feel better, I'll always love you.

What are your plans? Qualify more? Do you plan to extend the time before closing purposefully, or just to weed out the trash that you would have previously screwed anyway?

How many of your 90% fell apart because of the other relationships?

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I'm a winner - I am going to win.

I'd say because I was so devoted to all of them all 90% had some part in destroying each other.

I plan on weeding out after Day 2s. If the Day 2 comes up and she isn't trash then I'll go ahead with a Day 3. I need to make a list of qualities I'm looking for to help out with the process. It's very important you don't get pulled in by a shitty girl. They will effect your inner game.

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I can now see why you have strayed a bit over the last month or so Bes. Personally, I so very rarely find a girl that meets the standards I have set for a girl that I want to have something with, that I have gone weeks without bothering to call any girls that I got numbers from. Up those standards man and it will definitely improve how you feel about yourself. I slept with a girl I wasn't all that interested in one time and even though she was pretty attractive (don't ask me to rate, I find it next to impossible to rate women), I ended up taking a shower because I felt so dirty after. There are consequences to lowered standards, believe me.

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

~ Rye

Yeah. I completely forgot about the whole "standards" part of PU. I was so indulged in the feeling of success that I was a fucking machine that ended up getting tangled in messy MLTRs over and over again. This shit really has a negative impact on yourself. I'm beginning to prioritize my life so I don't let girls get a big grip on me. Needs and wants, that's what it's all about.

My needs:
Cigarettes
Condoms
Diary/Poetry
Music
Food and Vitamin water
Attention
$$$$$$$


My wants:
Girls
Pussy
Asian girls
Really hot Korean girl

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Personally i went through the phase soon after learning this stuff where i attracted a lot of attractive girls. However, after some *fun* i realised that it wasnt what i really wanted.
It was about that time i set up clear clear criteria on what i wanted in a girl and i dont dip below those standards. Now, just because a girl doesnt meet everything you want, doesnt mean u cant game them, its good practise and as long as you never close them no1 gets any harm from it (ofc, jst be careful you dont accidently get people falling in love with you... its VERY akward).
A basic outline of what i look for is as follows:
Attractive (minimum HB7.5)
Able to hold a good conversation
Respectful
Passionate about something (preferably a sport)
Clever enough to have conversations beond "how shall i cut my hair"
Expressive, not over the top on this but no heartless models
Someone i can relate to, enjoys similar things to me, is supportive of my interests and i can be supportive of theirs.
....... the list goes on.

The other key thing i learnt very quickly was to the same extent as having standards of what i want in a girl i also realised i have to have some sort of rules on things i just will not tolerate. Not just girls in this case but everyone in my life.
Dont lie/ withhold information or give me a reason not to trust you.
Never be disrespectful to either myself or anyone associated to me. (stuff like bitching behind peoples backs, intentionally damamging peoples reputations or belongings. Basically anti social behavior, if you have a problem with some1 take it to them)
Dont try to abuse my friendship or take me for granted. (non of that using people to get somewhere or nagging behavior)

Now, those 3 rules i also apply to myself. I am by no means a religious man however I was always brought up to know the difference between right and wrong. Dont confuse this for being a "nice guy AFC", its just it is how i choose to live my life and its working out so far.... being an arsehole will only get you so far.

I would suggest you make similar things for youself, just as you did with needs and wants. What you aim to make yourself is far more important that what you currently are. Thats some of the best advice i have been given and its true. I have a clear picture of where i want to be in 7 years, know what i need to get there and i am sticking to it. It is both in regard to my career and also social life.

Hope that helped and i hope you work out what you want in ur life.
/madals

Pick a target, don't be deferred by previous failures and go.

I did that and I fucked a lot of girls. I have HPV now.

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K Bes, I'm gonna suggest you take another look at this list and you re-evaluate man. Condoms are a NEED? The rest I can accept as things that you may value so highly that you feel you need them, but what happened to all the important things in life? Where's your job? Where's a higher education if you're interested in post-secondary? Where's a clean household? Where's good personal hygene? Where's good solid friends?

You're trying to get yourself back in order and take care of yourself properly again, but you're only going half-way in my opinion. Sure, you've got money on the list, but money is only part of a much bigger issue. You can make money doing just about anything, you can make money begging for change on the street. Don't laugh, there are guys that were making $2000 a day in Vancouver and drove home at night in a Benz, to a million dollar home...till they got busted of course, but there's still some out there. Perhaps you decide you want money and you figure you can make some cash selling drugs, I know people that have done it, cause they figured it would be easy money and if that's all you're intersted in, then why not?

Figure out what you value. Figure out what you want out of life. Stop being reactive and set yourself some life goals and make plans to accomplish them. I'm kinda curious how old you are man, because I'm 23 and I've been through a lot of serious stuff over the past 10 years or so and I've learned a lot of life's lessons the hard way, so perhaps by heading a bit of my advice, you can save yourself some grief.

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

~ Rye