Ok, i think i have found a little sticking point. I have a very C&F alpha personality (enchanced by PUA, what little i know of it). This works great for attraction, but what i want to know is when, and how, do you make the transition from C&F to a more friendly attitude. To allow more comfort rather than pure attraction (which has already been made).
/madals

I have your exact problem. I'm seen as overbearing and don't build comfort. When would it be an opportune time to do so? I'm either one extreme or the other between "sweet,caring AFC" and " Caveman Alpha".

Medicationn for my bi-polar maybe LOL!

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- "Only those who are unworthy, ...get lucky". -CB

- "The larger an ego becomes, the more vunerable it is. Like a ballon while inflating gains more and more surface area for a pin to invade." - CB

usually, i build comfort before i start doing the cocky funny thing.

the easiest way is using nlp to build comfort. subtly match posture, breathing patterns, and voice tone while maintaining natural eye contact; fluff, then when you are certain they are feeling you, you can transition into being more c&f.

what would u consider natural eye contact? Everyone has a different pattern which to them is "natural".

follow visual cues.

if they are looking off somewhere while talking, look partly at the direction they are looking off in, whilst partly making eye contact.

or if they are using their hands to explain a point, glance at the hands when they make big motions.

everyone is different, so use your discretion as to how often and with what timing you should glance back and forth.

i trust everyone knows how to maintain natural eye contact if they are not consciously thinking about it. be bold, make eye contact whenever possible,

but don't make people uncomfortable and stare.

I think some honesty and solid kino (with escalation) is enough comfort for this situation.