Hey, I need some help.

(i'm 20, no job, no car, no highschool diploma yet and over weight)

I'm 20 years old and I live in a town in the US with around 9,000 people, I met a girl at the bar and shes 25, at the end of the night I was somehow the only guy to leave with her number, but I think the reasoning was just to be nice or just to be friends... I have her number, she has mine.

A Friend joked with me and left a message on her phone telling her to clal me, she ended up calling and we talked for 10 minutes and she said shed call me the day after when she got off work, she didn't end up doing it.

this is really important to me, shes a great girl... i'm not good with girls and I was planning to call tomorrow and just ask her out for coffee, but I don't want to screw things up. She'd be a HB9 btw.)

Yeah sounds like she's just being nice. From reading this post you seem like someone who needs to work dramatically on improving general aspects of themselves before they worry about anything to do with gaming women. You say 'I'm 20, no job, no car, no highschool diploma yet and over weight'. EVERYTHING about yourself counts. There's a post on the comfort and attraction section that talks about all the things you can work on to make yourself attractive.
Nothing negative has become of your situation however - She is now another woman that you know, and the more women you know, the better (even if they are just friends).

My adive - Get out. Learn some shit. Do some shit. Push the boundaries

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"To guys, getting laid is a chore.
To women, getting laid is a choice"

-Ross Jeffries

There's always been a saying that i like to go by that is:

If you can't love yourself, who can you love?

You have to be able to look at both sides about yourself both positive and negative. It's quite easy to point out the bad parts about yourself, hell anyone can name what their bad qualities are, but when it comes down to naming your positive qualities, you can't think of one within 10 seconds.

-Now here's what i suggest you do. I've been in the community since the start of this year, this is after 3 years being outta the game in a long term relationship. Now, i had read somewhere that before i even start getting back in the field, i must evaluate myself. What i want you do is get a pen and paper, write down a description of yourself, height, weight, age, physical build. Now it's easy to dwell on the bad stuff about your appearance, but you have to ensure you're able to also pull out a positive about the way you look.

-Now describe your personality, it's easy to write something about who you should be, and not who you really are. I know it may be hard to do this, but think honestly, and write the first thing that comes in your head when it comes to your personality. Remember to list positives as well as your inadequacies, I keep saying it, but it is way too easy to dwell on the negatives and by writing down all your negatives, can be self defeating.
Some questions to get you on your way:

-# Are you reliable, honest, funny, educated, shy or outgoing, practical or uninhibited?
# Do you have a large social group of friends and co-workers, or do you like to spend time with just one or two important people?
# What have your past relationships with women been like? Who ends them? Why?
# What is your current financial status?
# What are your religious and political views?
# What beliefs and values do you live by?
# What activities do you enjoy?
# What are you interested in?
# What are your hobbies, if any?
# Are you happy in your career, or would you like to learn new skills and change jobs?
# Who or what would you like to become?
# If you could do anything to spend your time, what would you choose to do?

Make sure you take the time to answers these questions, honestly, and impulsively, because when you think too much about it, you may end up writing a non-truth about yourself.

Now the reason why you should do this, knowing who you are exudes personal power.

Now i did this before I went back in the field and started sarging again. In myself description i said i was overweight, so i wrote down a way i was going to change this aspect of myself, to use a line off queer eye for the straight guy, I needed some "man-scaping". So i wrote that i needed to do more exercise, change my diet, and start viewing food as fuel for my body to function, and not a means to end for my hunger. This is such a good way to help with your game, because by knowing yourself, it helps with your routines when you go out, you can fall back on this if you run out of material. Establishing a common ground or being able to talk about something that is common to yourself, makes it so0o0o00o0oo much more easier to talk to a HB when she has that in common with you...

and last of all, i want you to say this to yourself about the HB that gave you her number... It's her loss... her loss, that she didn't call you...

well, i think it's time for me to get off my soapbox...

hope it makes sense to you buddy.

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Experience is the teacher of all things - Julius Caesar

HEy Mate inner game, inner GAme ok.

Well we are starting from a good point, if u know which are u problems try to solve them, excercise. It will help U meet People also.

Belive Us We ARe Experienced, phsych its second term when u got personality , when u r Funny, when u kno whow to game them.

Try to take Big Sheests of paper write a quiality (when u Got ) in each and paste them all over ur Bedroom, learn how to love and respect who you are.


I could write all they long about specific points mate but i can not do every thing for U, and thats the main point No one is going to do anything for U. SO MATE ITS UR SHOT TO BE INCREDIBLE TU BE GPUA OR WHTEVA JUST BE DETERMINED.

And as i said i could wirite all fay long but try this post
is great post Obviosly an impact original lol

how-to-overcome-social-shyness-impact-vt2410.html

Cheer Up MAte,

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Que le digo a la muerte, tantas veces llamada a mi lado,
que al cabo se ha vuelto mi hermana?

-"I Can Bend Your Mind"- Sovnarkom

she ended up calling me the next day, I guess I worried too much cause she did say she'd call on the weekend, Told her I'd call her today cause I didn't really know what to do last night.

That's good then mate. So it really wasn't that bad, but this topic has brought up valid information on inner game. And just by reading what you initially said I can tell you need to work on feeling better about yourself. If you don't work on your inner-game, then you're ALWAYS gonna be worrying about this stuff. Because guess what; she DID end up calling you, even though you had doubts in yourself (you even took the time to list negative points about yourself)

All the best

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"To guys, getting laid is a chore.
To women, getting laid is a choice"

-Ross Jeffries

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I am not crazy. I am INSANE.

I'd work on getting a highschool diploma, a job, and a car before your getting all up tight over women. You need to get your life in order, then worry about getting laid. Focus on self improvement buddy, its important.

ARE YOU MICRONEASIAN? hahaha JK

this was taught to me by pimpology teachers.
i'm going to write it from that stand point.

you looking for a job? let her know what your plans are and do it! even if its a small job/ part time job/ job from home. do something make that money.

made me think of this song from kanye west

You got out to eat and he cant pay yall cant leave
There's dishes in the back, he gotta roll up his sleeves
But why yall washin watch him
He gone make it into a Benz out of that Datson
He got that ambition baby look in his eyes
This week he moppin floorz next week it's the fries
So, stick by his side
-let her know you got drive. that you ain't going to be in that rut.

I know his dude's ballin but yea thats nice
And they gone keep callin and tryin
But you stay right girl
But when you get on he leave yo a** for a white girl
-let her know that the grass isn't alway greener you ain't going to do her wrong like other chumps.


look into adult classes. go to them. what will it take for you to get your GED? it doesn't cost much. and i'm sure family will be happy and support you if money is for that.

as far as the car goes. make that a short term goal. does she have a car? if she does, make sure you pay for gas. if you hook up. maybe wash it. I don't care to drive so i make them pick me up if possible. it also gives a reason why we end up back at my house.
i've been having this one girl pick me up for a while. so i washed her car while i had the day off and she worked. she loved it. ( i can detail most cars ). Its amost AFC but we been fooling around for a while. so its more of a advanced than some new girl.

how much over weight are you? make up for it in personality. I've seen some hot chicks with big guys. Some times its weird like that. don't doubt your self. invite her to go walk. pick someplace nice and relaxing. NLP the relaxing to your self.

just make sure you do some fun things. maybe bars and crowds is not something to stay with. take her out to hang at the zoo. or the beach. something different. show her how fun you are.

and what ever you do. don't show fustration or jealousy.

First thing to do is start looking for a job. No matter what. at least you'll be able to pay for shit.

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For players, its survival of the smoothest. [tg]
If it works for you stick with it.

If you want some good inner game stuff look up Hypnotica. The guy's got his shit totally together man. Unstoppable confidence

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"To guys, getting laid is a chore.
To women, getting laid is a choice"

-Ross Jeffries