| A friend of mine directed me here after telling me I was a 'natural PUA'.
I haven't read the books, but understand a little of the lingo because most of my mates are into the sarge.
The reason I'm posting is because this little community intrigues me and I'd like to share my experiences given that my 'game' is in no way influenced by what you guys use.
I'm 22, University educated, I live in the UK, 5'10 and considered good looking.
What I thought I would do is explain how I go about meeting, closing and sealing the deal. I'm interested to know what you guys think and how it compares to the more commonly accepted techniques. One thing I will say; is that this works...
Having no interest in befriending women, and as such attaining no female friends - all my girlfriends and bedpost-notches come entirely from self-introduction. Chiefly I use bars, clubs, societies and public transport (something I'm trying to focus more on). My most sucessful arena is in bars and clubs at night time.
Clothing: Trendy, but not over the top. For example a simple checkered cowboy shirt, long sleeved rolled carelessly up to the elbows, collar purposefully spread wide to highlight collarbone and good shoulders. Levis jeans standard cut and soft brown leather moccasins. THIS, for me is key. By dressing in quality clothes and not looking like a pillock it gives you free reign to rip into any guy who looks like he has tried too hard. As I gather from reading other posts 'standing out' seems to be the name of the game and I do concur. However, the sort of women I game (University-educated 9/10 professionals, models etc. will not be interested in men with gaudy accessories. I stand out by wearing clothes that fit me very well, that show off my attrtibutes, stand out from my friends but show a touch of class.
Eye contact: I've become very intuitive in knowing when a girl finds me attractive.
'Oh, she's looking at me, maybe she thinks I'm hot'.
If she glances at you and holds eye contact for even a split second; you're in. I just tell myself she thinks I'm the hottest guy in the club and want s me to come at talk to her. Anything to build confidence. After initial eye contact I wait for it to happen again and as soon as our eyes meet for the second time I walk straight towards her as she is looking at me, pull her away from her friends and start talking to her.
Opening lines: I'm very oppourtunistic and if a natural situation arises to talk to a girl, I grasp it. If not I have a small bank of phrases:
- Pointing at her shoes and looking at them...'Nice shoes'...Then walk off without saying another word or listening to any reply she has. To pick up later.
- 'I really like your dress'...Then cut her out as she tries to reply...
'Yeh, I've got a similar one at home'...Again cut her short as she replies
'Yeh, it looks a bit better on me though'
-'How much did that bag/those shoes/that dress/that hat cost?
'£20'
'I didn't think you were THAT cheap'
Once a conversation has started, it's normally game over. I don't do any ridiculous magic tricks or games like my friends. Just drop the odd joke, tell the odd story, ignore some of what she says and look over her shoulder, touching her arm or her side at the right time etc. etc.
A great line I have been using recently goes like this:
(After being asked why I am single/anything to do with sex/one night stands)
-'I don't believe in one night stands. I finished with them once I left Uni. The sex is normally rubbish. I like there to be a connection with a girl, a real spark, someone on the same wavelength (looking in her eyes). I know it sounds a bit silly but that's what I'm like.'
I also drop in in that I haven't had sex in 6 months because I'm so picky because of the need for a connection.
This usually makes them feel that they will acheieve something by sleeping with you where other women have failed.
-Turn the conversation so that you are talking about oral sex in some description (she will always insinuate she has been told she is 'amazing at giving head' - it's odd, every woman thinks she is incredible at it)
'Well if you want to know a little secret, at the age of 22 I've still never come from receiving head.'
'OMG!' She says 'Trust me you would if I were doing it'
'Trust ME woman, many women have said that and no-one has yet'
You've set them a challenge and they want to prove that they are good at giving head (they have a funny sense of pride regarding oral sex!).
If I don't seal the deal that night I give them MY number, telling them I left my phone at home. That immediately puts them on the backfoot by having to be the first one to contact (you might be surprised that pretty much every one of them does!). I arrange a date as early as possible so the spark doesn't have time to die out and bob's your fu cking uncle.
Notably I also use words like 'young lady' and 'woman' (in a playful manner) when referring to them. I don't know if this would work in the US but it seems to assert my dominance in the UK over women. I NEVER buy a woman a drink and if the girl I am talking to asks me to dance, i refuse. Then later make sure she sees me dancing with another girl. CLASSIC!
A very brief insight into a true novice in the world of seducation but I hope some of you find it interesting and can give me a few tips as to where you think I could improve.
I'm very good at opening and closing. But not so good at the time consuming long patter you need with the classy 9s and 10s.
Look forward to getting involved!
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