Hey, new here. Not a starter but a slow learner in truth. Very much issues of confidence being my first challenge. Been working on it a long time but even now it falls away, am looking to solidify my inner game whilst working on my outer gaming skills too.

Sometimes I find myself worrying too much about acting as the alpha and then forget to have fun. Also find it a bit of a confidence bruiser when I meet a girl who is more dominant than me or is just totally not biting. Naturally Im not a dominant person at all so becoming more assertive has been tough. Currently travelling, in Bosnia right now and the chicks here are smoking in case you were wondering (Croats, Serbs and Bosnians, trust me), so that´s helped as meeting people is the name of the game but my confidence will drop when results aren´t forthcoming. Like today.

Am here for the long haul though, this is something that I really need to conquer to give myself a more fulfilling life.

I know that I can learn from you enough to get me where I want too be and beyond.

MrSarajevo

Welcome to the boards matey!

First off, if you are intimidated by anyone, then just remember the two word mantra of all PUAs worldwide: 'Fuck It.' So what if she doesn't hook? You just learned from it, which will help the next time.

Secondly remember that being alpha means that, not only are you a fun person to others, you must make sure you are having a good time yourself, as this will, in turn, boost your confidence.

Dougie

Hey man whats going on? new eh? me too but the alpha stuff is alright but its good to have others around you as a wingman or provide u switch it up but always have fun at partys and what not as your playing the game dont worry about what the girls will do man youll learn from the mistakes, ive only just started up with my friend doing it for the past year or so so im learn some from him and readings from style, mystrey, and sin needless 2 say they blow my mind , keep in touch mate and let me know how the trip go's just dont worry about being the AMOG.

Have to say you guys have made some valid points backed up by the evidence of tonight. When I was worrying about not being the Alpha-dawg I got kinda inverted and said nothing and didn't really vibe with many people. When I relaxed as we hit the club I had much more fun and things went a bit better. No need to worry about what others think. "Fuck it."

In truth I should have isolated this girl I'd been chatting to a bit today. No buts. It was there for the taking. I find it difficult to isolate or spend too much time with one girl within a group as I get too self-conscious but I know that comes from weaker inner game which I'm continually working on. Starting as low as I did it's a wonder I got this far, now I know I can go further.

MrSarajevo