I've been checking out the forums since yesterday, and I like what I am seeing..

I want to get a game .. My buddy at work tells me I got nothing..

He tells me all the time when we are out at lunch or just hanging out.. that chick is checking you out.. I'm like really?? huh? where? get outta here.. etc... I am clueless.. never see it happening around me..

How does he know?

Well, over time I have come to realize he knows.. he is a mPUA..he talks about NLP, and all the buzz words floating around here in the forums.. How to key in on cute chicks with low self esteem, neg them even more, then close the deal.. and then dump on them even more when you leave..it is a pattern they get caught in and can't get out of..He says it validates their low opinion of themselves.Like they expect to be treated like crap.. That seems a bit hard core to me..but it sure does work for him..

I'm 44, still have all my own teeth and hair (mostly grey now).. I'm not a Tom Cruise, but I ain't the troll under the fricken bridge either.. I have had about 6-8 dates over the last couple of months.. I think I just stumbled into them by pure blind luck. There must be some vibe I am putting off they pick up on.. I need to focus that and hone that skill set.. so I can see all the women I've been missing..

One other problem I have noticed, when I do actively seek out a woman, it seems to have the opposite affect.. my bud tells me I am the everyday AFC nice guy... I have heard that to many times from women.. I hate the nice guy label..

Looking forward to reading more here..

Sam

Good luck mate, I'll think you'll do well.
6-8 dates in a couple of months is awesome - I'm lucky if I get one date a year.
I got into the community at 38 and after a year and a half realised it wasn't for me, and am now really focusing on overcoming social awkwardness and connecting with people.
It sounds to me like you've got the right foundation for getting good with women, even at 44.

Read your PMs.