I am baffled, along with my pua enthusiast friend. Don't know what to make of it....

This girl that i've known for a while, tells me she's officially dating a guy, that same night before I take off for a long trip, tells me how i'm special and all that fun stuff and then breaks it off with him the next day......then gets back together with him after like 4 days. I find out after I get back from my trip that was almost a month long.

It's like i'm in the friend zone except we do stuff on occasion that "just friends" wouldn't, and everytime there's a new guy i'm the friend she just can't lose on the side and wants in her life forever......it's really fucking with me the back and forth of it all. what do you guys think?

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shes tooling you.
you're the afc right now, so i'd say make her realize that she will lose you, freeze her out and fuck with her back. the realization of loss is key. freeze her out when she puts you in the friends zone. i mean a complete freeze until she gets desperate. then have you initial answer be "no" and make her work for youre time.

this is an almost too common problem with guys after theyve built attraction and comfort and start seeing each other more often.

another thing to do is make her jealous, let her know you're not only seeing her, and actually go out and meet new chicks. dont let her touch your selfesteem.

if you also dig back on the forums theres plenty of other routes you can take to solve this problem/

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Maaaaaaaaaaaaan.....

Listen to Beschatten. He gave you the best possible advice.

Do not contact this girl. Freeze her out. She is getting what she wants out of the relationship, while you are getting dragged along. You are her fall back guy. Her #2 option. She knows that she can date other guys, and that you will always be there for her.

Go out meet a few other girls. If you like this girl, you have to make her jelous. She has to understand that you are a busy man, with multiple options. Do not except second class behavior. You are worth more than that.

Good luck bro.

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