I work with this girl at a club/restaurant and we get along and everything... we played arround and called each other names, "sweetie pie" and she would call me "honey" etc...

One night we had a little to drink and since a buddy of mine was interested in a waitress that worked there, so this one night we all stayed after hours for a couple drinks and to talk....

I followed the kino process and since my buddy was doing aswell as I was I told her to go somewhere else.

She followed me outside and walking to the patio on the speakers came the song " Apologize " and just walked to the little dance area and danced to that some with her, and talked a little and told her "not to tell X" since X seemed to be interested in her... ofcourse I ment it as a joke. She replied "why would I tell him" after a couple drinks you can't really remember what else you say but I do remember saying something about me "getting a little jealous" and she said "why would you get jealous" and looked suprised with an open smile on her face....I think at this point I just rested my head to hers and slow danced some more.

We went outside sat on the chairs and I proceeded to give her a foot massage and even kissed her feet a little.

We went back inside and she took a chocolate cookie shot and the bar tender suggested I take a blow job shot... so I did and put it between her legs... I could feel the heat, like a campfire, so I went to take the shot and could smell the precum in the air close to her crotch are.

The place closes down and since we're a little tipsy we decide to just take a nap in the waiting benches... since 1 person can fit lying down, we lie down forming a "L" shape...

She mumbled something and I lean in to hear and somehow ended up kissing her in the mouth.

Next day she says she had a lot of fun I say I had fun too... don't talk about what happened for a couple weeks and she finally asked if we had kissed... I said yeah and she asked "for how long" and I said "for a second I think...but don't get weird" She replies "It seemed like a dream"
"Wow! I'm that good" I said laughingly and we both have a good laugh.

We don't talk about it after that... we still have fun and share a meal and talk about stuff....

Then just 5 days ago... my buddy brian comes to work, since I wasn't the only one who had an interesting night....

The girl, XOX, leaves, and comes back... she came back to look for her keys... they're locked in the car... I suggest she calls AAA, she doesn't have her card... so I asked the valet attendant to let me borrow his slim jim to open her car... so I open the car as she attends to the calls as I asked her to...

I tell her I had no luck and try to play it funny... she goes and tries to open the car witht the slim jim and I start telling her would it be much easier if we just had the keys and proceeded to open the lock... she laughs and kinda playfully puches me in the arm....

So I head back to my duties as my buddy X comes in the door and says "Is that XOX?, she's not staying?" I said "I'd like her to stay but then I look like the needy type" he agrees and proceeds to text her to "Come and say hello" She comes back again I'm talking to someone and I walk in on them and the waitress just talking... " I though you were leaving" I said to her... "I'm just saying hi" she said...

So we're all talking and she starts to leave... "Someone invited me to the promenade" she said... stupidly I ask "who?""some friends" she responds as I try to look like I didn't care. "I'll come back if it's boring" she says.

So now we're 3 and I feel like the 3rd wheel....

My buddy messages her how she's doin... I don't remember the response...

So she arrives and we're into our 3rd round of drinks and about to smoke some weed outside.... I tend to some other things as they head outside...

So we're sitting outside and talking and she has and episode with the weed...

Long story short... we endup same place we were before and she's really cold so I tell her to lie on top of me for body warmth.... somehow we start kissing again and this time I ask "is it just like the dream you had before?"
She replies "this time more intense" so we make out like there's no tomorrow... I have my hand underneath her pants massaging her ass... but I come to my senses and stop myself there..... We sleep until 5:10 a.m.... to go home....

I text her how she was doing arround 8 and get a just a little dizzy response...

My buddy calls me to see how I was doing since he left with the waitress much earlier than we left.

I said doin fine and he asked about XOX... I mentioned the text and told him to call her if he wanted to check up on her.... so 15 minutes later I miss her call and call her back.... she's doin fine and said she was hungry... I told her I was 10 minutes away from her place and if she wanted to get something to eat together... what a lie!!! I was 30 minutes away and though of why don't we meet somewhere, closer to me ofcourse.... she suggested a couple places and I told her no... I said I'll think of the place and I'll call you back... so I thought of a place in between us... Shakey's!!... so I called her and she didn't know where it was so I sent her a message of where it was... I was like 10 minutes late... so we had some pizza and stuff and talked about what we could remember the night before... She told me she was no longer with her boyfriend.. I told her my gf had gotten mad beacuse I didn't stop by her house the night of and just talked about stuff.... Oh, when we ordered I said to her "Since this is not a date and we are not dating, I'll pay for this time but I expect to be taken care of for equal or lesser value....I mean for equal or greater value"... inventing creative stuff to say on the fly is hard and make me fuck up a rather funny line easily...she laughed and said "I like the equal or lesser better"

So we work together that day and she started talking about this one guy that was in the restaurant... eyeing him as I would eye a HB, she said " isn't he handsome?" I replied "I don't look at men like that..."

We said our goodbye's for the night....I haven't seen her since Friday night... she's due to work tomorow (wednesday) with me... I have mixed feelings about this.... Please Help... I think I have one-itis.... I have seen other girls and had fun with them... but this girl seems to be constantly in my head....Please help... what should I do... I fucked up ... I always though I wouldn't fish off the company peer... but now I'm waist deep in this... Please any advise would be greatly appreciated...
Should I pursue her? what's the best way approach her?
Should I backoff? what's the best way to backoff?
Should I just ignor her? What's the best way to do that?

Sincerely,
Dazzed & Confused Newbie

damn man thats long, maybe u should break that in chapters so i could read it better, well anyway to answer ur question, yes drop out of school and work towards ur dream of becoming the worlds best plumber, don't let anyone stop u

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Haha.. Sorry it was long... just wanted to get the details in...
so unclear of what I should do though?

What?! Random...haha....

Anyway, it sounds like you're worrying about nothing, she's into you, you're getting along great. I don't see the problem, just call her and arrange to see her again. You might have done a couple of AFC things, but hey, it's worked so don't throw it away for the sake of it.

Now I may have misunderstood, but did you say in there somewhere that you have a girlfriend?

Information from http://fastseduction.com/asf-faq.shtml#q002a
Hope that points you in the right direction.

Well, not girlfriend in the matter of speaking but, a consistent booty call that I was supposed to of met of that night with... I slipped and called her my gf....

Well, today I'll be working with her.... I'm not gonna get all pushy... if she doesn't wanna hang arround it's her decision.... I guess I am making it a big deal...

I fall for women very easily sometimes....

Man up and get over your habit of catching one-itis. GFTOW.

Either that or stop whining because you are CHOOSING "more of the same."

"Heaven helps those who help themselves."

So one-itis... get out there and meet other women... right?!

So yesterday she text me that she wasn't able to make it to work cuz she was in "pain"??? So I text her "ok, feel better".. so she text me "thanx" twice...

SO night goes pretty laid back...

2HBs in a red 2008 beemer walk in and I give them an honest smile with some pearly whites showing...

So my buddy X goes and talks to them, HB1 tells him he's cute... SHIT!!! that's the one I was gonna target but he beat me to the punch... so I go for HB2, sit next to HB1 on her right hand side and to the left of HB2 ... some friends join in on them... 1 AMOG in the group....

I disarm him by telling some jokes with my back to HB1 as my buddy talk to her... So seeing her friends laughing she divert's her attention over to me and leans in to hear the joke...

She tells that my buddy just tried to pick her up with " did you just eat fried chicken?, cuz your lips look delicious"... I say that it wasn't a pick up it was more of a compliment toward her in his own little way... so she want to hear the first jokes I told... I have to make a decision now to either Hawk away my buddies target or let him keep crashing and burning... so I figure he eliminated himself with that fried chicken line.

So I talk to her some more and she wants to go dance! I don't know how t odance I can move arround and pretend to dance... but wasn't my night and just tried....

So they ask the bar tender for a couple shooter shots... I suggest that they try some chocolate cake... they've never had it... so I tell them how to properly take it... was gonna suggest blow job shots... but figured there'd be time for that....

So there I perform the best friends test....and after the first couple questions they passed ....

Long story short got a number from HB2 and are gonna set something up for tonight to go to a strip club.... Any suggestions or comments on what I did and what I should do would be greatly appreciated....