| So before I ask for advice, here is a brief summary of my current status:
I found out about the PUA techniques (not from this site) about 3 years ago, but have had trouble adopting many of them, and then sort of gave up (I know most techniques on paper but have trouble applying them due to approach anxiety, thinking too much of what others think, etc.). Now I have realized that I have changed a lot since then and actually feel I can go beyond the boundaries I felt before.
So here is my current situation:
I was dating a girl for a few weeks recently (after over 1.5 years of being single and complete lack of approaching), but quickly developed a oneitis and was afraid of moving too fast. As a result, she stopped contact with me. I'm not an idiot, and cut off contact as well realizing that it's over. Later on my friend told me that she actually wrote a myspace blog about our first encounter and how much she enjoyed it and thought I was "the one", and that she's rather "promiscuous" so had I played my cards right and not been a pussy I could have gotten laid on first date. This has gotten me thinking about PUA techniques again and how much easier it would be if I actually went through with it 3 years ago.
Fast Forward to Now:
Yesterday I was meeting with a group of people to finish a semester-long project for a class. Now there are quite a few alpha-male type guys in the group, but somehow since I know more about the project than others, I basicly ended up as the unofficial group leader, where others ask me for advice as well as my opinion on how well they did their part and if they should redo it. There also happened to be another meeting at the same time (with half the guys from our group also participating in it), and I noticed an HB9 in the other group (also noticed her eyeing me a few times during the meeting).
Later I noticed her talking to a friend, and joined the conversation as well. She was smiling a lot, keeping eye contact. It probably also helped that other group members were asking for my help/opinion at the same time and I often had to interupt my conversation with her for that (social proof). Eventually I went back to doing my part, and she came up to see what I was working on, asking a lot of questions and saying how hard it must be. We talked a little about our future plans etc., and eventually she had to leave to work on another project. I asked her for her name, but didn't exchange numbers (for some reason it didn't feel right).
Today I added her to facebook friends, and now I need some advice from you guys on how I should continue this. School year is ending so I want to strengthen the attraction as soon as possible. I don't want to think about it too much myself since that usually makes me overanalyze and the pussy me come out. I really doubt I will get to see her in person again before the end of the year, so I'm thinking of using facebook as a hook. The question is, should I fool around with a few of pokes/flirty messages or ask her to get together for some coffee with the first message? Also, I'm better at teasing/flirting through internet than real life (lack of experience). I must also mention that I'm 21 (graduating from college, but staying in the area), and she's 20.
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