OK - so here's the deal. I lost my virginity a long time ago (3-4 years ago). I had a one night stand and I honestly think that may be punishing me for it. I haven't had sex since that night shortly after I turned 18. Actually, I've turned it down a few times (other one night stand opportunities.) I haven't been in a relationship since high school and the one I had back then was with a girl that took advantage of my trust and cheated on me (we never had sex.) After that I started partying a lot and my life kind of went down hill in that department.

Now I'm 21 and I guess I just consider myself inexperienced sexually. I haven't even kissed a girl in years! I guess this is a really weird situation and I'm not really sure what to think about it. I was, at one point in my life on the track to being like everyone else, but obviously that didn't work out.

I'm really not bad at talking to women. I flirt with them all the time and I've read all kinds of books on the topic, yet they still haven't helped my life. I think part of the reason is that I really want a relationship, but then again I don't know if I want to wait to have sex with someone I like. 40-year-old virgin really discouraged when the guy says "You don't want to wait to have sex with someone you like because you'll be really bad at sex the first time you do it"

I actually just started talking to a girl that I used to love back in high school. I don't know if you would call it a relationship, but we used to make out and what not. Anyway, I talked to her for like 2 hours on the phone and I haven't talked to her in years. I used to like her a lot, but I lied to her back then and told her I wasn't a virgin. Now, I'm insecure because I might start to hang out with her again and I'll have to tell her the truth, unfortunately.

Anyway, I just wanted to get this out there and see what everyone's opinion on it is. I've made some mistakes in my life, but I'm a different, more mature person now and I really could use some help. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!

well i lied to my girl about that im a virgin but she thinks im not, she still doesnt know but im going to have to tell her soon, which sucks because we've been fighting a bit and this wont help at all.

i would just tell her from the get go

Ok let me get this straight your no bad at talking to women but you never take it to the next step? Do you ever Kino?If not try it and see how they react.Do you go out at all? Club Scene? Bar Scene?It seems to me like your a home-body.Do you stay home often and procrastinate about going out?

I was married for 2 years.I got married when I was 20 and I was depressed after the divorce.I didn't go out for a whole year.If I did I wouldn't even try talking to women.Then my friend knocked some sense into me and told me:"What do you have to lose"? So I got out there and slowly but gradually I worked it, I would go up to woman to see what works or what doesn't.
3 things I learned about women which they like and are attracted to

1.Confidence
2.Charm
3.Don't be too nice(Woman will turn you down fast) Neg them it works!
Also women hate Liars,be yourself but be assertive.

Try it,you are not going to know what to expect if you don't try it.

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I agree with Qwesence1, definetley try some kino it'll help you get back into having a physical interaction with women again. It's a start anyway.