hi guys, What is the best answer when a girl puts herself down e.g "I wish I was that skinny" or "i no im not the prettiest" i've had this alot and don't really no how to deal with these, i'm not saying that these girls are fat or ugly they are around 7.5/8's, but i see this as a sign or being insecure and don't no how to deal with it. I was sarging a 9 on saturday and she had an amazing body and she knew it, and she told me she hadn't bin to the gym in ages and she had love handles and was getting fat and she clearly wasn't i think she was showing off infront of the other girls so i negged her but will it be different with 7's and 8's? ne advice?

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Depends, some girls just liek some afc to bust their ego up by saying something like this:

HB7 : I Dont like the color of my eyes (having beautiful green eyes )

AFC: Oh, No way , you have the most .....

- But sometimes the are unsecure ....

My adivce is to avoid the topic with 7 - 8

HB7 : I Dont like the color of my eyes

XFMAN: Did you know that most of the girls .... change topic

But with 9 - 10 give negs:

HB10 : I Dont like the color of my eyes

XFMAN: Me neither , you should buy some glasses

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Ya I would bust her balls .. but thats just me.... Sometimes its a swing and a miss. I remember this one girl was saying she was butch, because she boxed or kickboxed. One of those so I was like ya you must be pretty butch. She immediatly switched her mood and started to verbally attack me and then told me I better just walk away. I just laughed and called her a insecure bitch who better get her head checked and then walked away.

You have to calibrate your negs according to the girl

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Her: I hate the color of my eyes.
Monkey: Your hair is worse. What's wrong with the color of your eyes?

Her: I'm a kick-boxer. I'm pretty butch, doncha know.
Monkey: Well at least ONE of us is. You can be my new bodyguard!

Her: I don't think I'm very pretty.
Monkey: I think you're pretty. But pretty is common. Everyone is pretty nowadays. A great personality and outlook on life are way more important to me. <vacuum>

Her: I wish I was that skinny.
Monkey: We're broken up, then. I prefer a woman who can appreciate an ice cream cone every once in a while.

Thnx monkey shaft and xfman, thats cool advice i will defo use cheers guys.

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I would absolutley not play to her insecurities.

a) she will want the lights out during sex,

b) will be shy in the bedroom

c) will probably end up threatening to kill herself when she realises you just wanted a quick fumble between the sheets.

blimey, threatening to kill herself is pretty extreme

when she says something like " I hate my eyes!" say, well beauty is common, but what is really rare is as great outlook on life, so tell me, what have you got going for you apart from your looks?

This does two things- it makes you look as if you responded on the same topic (when in actual fact you changed it), it confuses her, as she still doesn't quite get your opinion on her eyes, flabby love handles etc, and it gives you a damn good way to look for IOIs and BHRR (bait,hook,reel,release.) And yes I realise that is more than two things.

So, to BHRR, you ask her this question (the bait), and if she starts listting a few qualities (she hooks), it is an IOI, you should then pull her in by saying "awsome" or another positive comment about her qualities (reel), but then at the last minute, when she starts to think you an AFC (usually 2-3 seconds) then release her with a disqualifier such as "its a shame i only date Tall girls" (the release) if she says AWWW then you can close instantly by saying "well give me your number and i MIGHT make an exception." If she doesn't say awww then just carry on threading.

May not be original, but it works.

well Shaft you clearly failed that one mate. It was probably in the way you said/conveyed it. (unless she was really a psycho...but this is rare)

scott076q, if done correctly the above will not occur.

When she issues self-deprecating remarks about herself....you must clearly convey that you are JOKING and that she is being silly and insecure the way she is fishing for compliments and re-assurance.

This will actually make her feel more confident as you have indirectly told her that she is being silly about it. If you are genuinely playing on her insecurities and making her feel like shit continuously, well then youre not going to get her into the bedroom in the first place!

How's about something like:
"Now what's a pretty girl like you doing seeking attention?"

Or would actively noticing they're seeking attention be a bad thing?

if a girl goes to me 'i wish i was that skinny' id go 'yeh bitch i wish u were too lmao(laugh alot)' its easy to see its a joke so she prolly wont kill herself or get sad..

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yeh im rich n get HB10s so what??

just tell them to stop fishing for compliments

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i agree ... you can just say : i think you want me to say your pretty or something don't you ? - why do you seek approval from me ? i just met you / i don't know you that long and want see if there's more then the eye meets.

Never play along with a girl's insecurities or you will be AFC... some insecuritities are just plain shit tests - If she's your girlfriend and your together for 6 months i would say no your perfect.

just change topic , just tell them to STFU in a nice and polite context.
if a girl self negs just don't give a shit you can even make a joke out of a self-neg.