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I am currently trying to get over a bad case of oneitis. This one is a bit tricky but I have done my best to fuck it up even more
So, this girl has a bf that lives in another state. She and I are pretty much best friends and for the longest time I was in a relationship too. Well that changed not long ago and since then I have been chasing her a lot. We have hooked up a couple times but she always retreats back to her bf, even though they are constantly up and down on their emotional rollercoaster. I was trying to think of how to get over her so I hooked up with her best girlfriend. That kinda backfired bc now I think she is jealous. And on top of that, her best girlfriend is falling for me.
I really fucked myself on this. I know I should just move on completely but she is one of my best friends and I dont want to lose that. Any advice?
1. "even though they are constantly up and down on their emotional roller coaster". You just answer your own question, this creates drama in her life and as we all know girls are addicted to drama. So now she cant leave her boyfriend alone, if he hits her from time to time he will never get rid of her lol.
2. her boyfriend is in different state so she cant have him everyday and girls want what they cant have, on the other hand she can/has you on daily basis.
3. You chase her around so obviously you are no challenge for her, she loses interest really fast in you because she knows she can have you, but since you are "nice" to her she wants to keep you as a friend.
4. Good that you hooked up with her girlfriend. Girls know they are attracted to you when they feel jealousy.
you gotta learn how to be an asshole sometimes but not too much, tease her etc. push/pull, freeze out etc. Never help her with her problems etc, tell her she should ask her friends/boyfriend for advice, this will give her a hint.
When she asks you to go out and hang out, tell her you are busy doing something else. (this makes her jealous thinking that you might be hanging out with other friends/girls, she doesnt know so she must keep on guessing, that means she must think of you, the more she thinks of you the more attracted she becomes.)
you are in LJBF zone, there was too much comfort created before attraction. You might never get out of that zone and if you try it too hard or too fast you might come off as creepy/weird, and not only she wont be your girlfriend but you might lose her as a friend.
There are some good boyfriend destroyer routines/lines in routines section of this site.