Since I discovered the community, I had 1 girlfriend. And as soon, as I entered the relationship, I stopped day game. Even when things were going bad with us, I still wouldn't pick up other girls, or block girls flirting with me. I just had this feeling of guilt. Would that be a betrayal? What would she or her friends think if they saw me with someone else, or me doing day game?

The problem is, that without constant day game, I get dependent on one girl, and loose all my skills over time. I become needy.

Had this problem a couple of months ago, first of all are we talking about LTR or STR? And are also every relationship you should screen for 1-itis.

OK my view, sarging is about finding someone who is hot and who you click with, if you have found that girl, then go for it, but don't sarge. Simple as.

If it is going to be a girlfriend/boyfriend relationship, then it is best to focus on commitment, heck its good to settle down for a couple of months and get used to life on the other sie of the fence. It is always an advantage to have a few "deep" relationships now and again, it just helps with fulfillment and allows you to really get comfortable, and I mean comfortable to the extent where you would tell her anything. Bearing in moind a Gf is a life time commitment, just a commitment that will go as far as YOU want it too.

So I think the question is....

Sarging or Relationship? Both have pro's, both have con's, you have got too decide what is better for your personal developement at this stage.

Only you can decide what you want now, you unfortunatly can't have both and a clear conciencse, make your pick and never look back!

edit: Dude these are life skills, they don't dissapear becuase your not hitting on chicks, these skills are universal they apply to everything in your social life. In fact having a GF for some time is really good for your inner game and helps you further your understanding of how girls think.

Depends on the context of the relationship. If it is an exclusive relationship, then it's cheating and betraying her. Some guys are ok with that, but I'm not. If it's not an exclusive relationship, ie you guys are just casually dating, then there's nothing saying you can't be dating other girls too, because women do it all the time. It's a matter of searching for the person you're most compatible with.

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

~ Rye

There's nothing wrong with being social. You can still go out and talk to girls/people while dating someone. Just work on your social skills in general. These are the skills that will enrich your whole life. Though I do believe with everything that Rye said.

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Men fall in love with their eyes. Women fall in love with their ears.

I think I have a difficulty differentiating between the two. I definitely agree with that. I learned a lot about woman from my girlfriend and it really improved my interaction with them.

Could you see yourself with her for more than 2-3 years?
Can you see yourself married to her?

If the answer is yes to any of these questions, it's LTR.

Otherwise its a short term thing..... STR.

i have to agree, just because your in any type of relationship doesn't mean you can't go out and meet new people

just go out and make new friends, it doesn't matter if they are male or female