so we're on our 5th date and all previous ones were good.

But today everything that could go wrong went wrong. 1st i told her to call me after her course so i could tell her where to meet up, and her phone dies and she calls me 30 mins late from a friend's phone. That throws my plan of surprising her with a dinner at a new cool restaurant we've wanted to go to out the window since we're too late and the kitchen closed.

Then when i propose playing a bit of pool instead, she says she's just really tired and wants to go home. Then she pulls her hair back and puts on glasses and is like a walking corpse. We did have a good talk/walk to her home, but she kept on pushing kino attempts away.

So when we part ways, she tells me she's sorry to have been like that, that she must have been really uninteresting to be with and sincerely sorry to have messed up my plans. I told her to call me, she said she'll definately do it and we bid ourselves goodbyes.

Now all this time i didn't know how to react on this cause it caught me so off guard that i just switched to being a gentleman.

And now i wonder what i should do. Should i just continue my life and if she calls, good, if not, then just move on? or should i call her in a few days and say something? and say what exactly if i do call her?

thanks for everyone who read this and Thanks once more if you answer

ps : oh and, i'm looking for a long term relationship, not just to lay her

i'd just wait it out for a few days..

but i have a simulair problem, had a few dates(also went out with her friends ect, she slept over at my place ect) with this girl she was really into me. then all the sudden there was always something last minute wrong like headache, had to go shopping with mom. then i called her and told her: "if you dont want to see me again just say so. im there when your having a good time and also there for you when thing are down(she had some family problems)"
so she wanted to see me the next day at 19:30 pm so i told her just give me a call during the day .. and she was like yeah i dont have credits but ill call no problem with friends phone or something so the next day at 19:40 i called her and she didnt pick up..
i was pretty pissed and didnt make contact with her since.. has been a week now and she hasnt called or text me yet.. but this girl is really in my head for some reason.. this weekend i banged another chick but im still thinking of this girl.. should i contact her again? and where do you guys think it went wrong?

Everyone has off days. Give her the chance to make it up by being better next time, if she doesn't improve, then look into other girls as well.

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yeah i have a few girl-friends that i talk to about my problems regarding relationships and they've told me exacly that.
That they also get pretty not fun when they are tired and things seems alot less attractive and sleep becomes reaallly gorgeous.

They told me it was probably just an off night and next time she'll probably be anxious to make it up to me since i was being so nice despite her being such an ass.

Of course, they omitted the "if she doesn't improve, then look into other girls as well" lol

I had an ex-girlfriend who said she still wanted to be friends, I stuck around for the potential of friends with benefits. Every time I tried to set something up, something innocuous for us to do she'd flake.

I employed the same three strike system I use with women I just met. A strike constitutes blowing me off or meeting and being unfun and uninterested.

It took my ex no time at all to use up all her strikes so now that she actually wants someone to hang out with she's SOL.