| New to the board, I'm interested in heightening this set of social skills as I am originally from a more rural area (where sarging was uncommon due to the fact that most people knew each other) I've always been able to get a girlfriend, but never been able to effectively run a pattern of seduction on a stranger in the amount of time I've seen some people on the site indicate.
I would say that my strong points upon entering the community is that I am an attractive guy, who has good comedic timing and control of his facial expressions, and have cocky funny down pat. My current hindrances are that I am still experiencing some approach anxiety. I have found with recent experimentation that a form of neg opener seems to work best for me. I also need to work more on eliminating all negativity from my game. My personality can be a double edged blade sometimes, in that while my dry sense of humor can successfully generate a witty remark that can get a set going, I sometimes find myself shooting myself in the foot with a negative comment and killing the positive energy that I've developed.
Most recent effective sarge....
Yesterday, as I was leaving the mall, I see a HB8-9 approaching the door. I stop on my way out and hold the door open for her to enter, keeping my body positioned more so as to face the open doorway as opposed to gawking at the approaching target. To make sure I didn't come across as a complete AFC, I made a sort of sarcastic bell hop gesture with my free arm as if to say come on in while I made eye contact and flashed her a smile. She looks back and gives me a semi-sheepish "Thank You".
She was of course still moving into the mall at these point, so I replied, "Oh, anything for you princess" (sarcastic tone). She stopped and turned completely around to look at me with her jaw slightly open. I looked at my watch and then said to her, "Yep, I knew I got here too early". She changed to a confused expression and I then said "I should be getting here right now so I could have walked in with you instead of having to meet you on my way out" She smiled and giggled a little bit.
I then told her I had just bought my watch and asked her what she thought of it while reentering the mall and approaching her while holding my arm out. She took my wrist while she looked at the dial and I sort of sidled up next to her and reciprocated the kino by placing my hand on her shoulder. I noticed that I could see our reflection in one of the store windows close to the entrance and I shifted my hand to her other shoulder (now having my arm over her shoulders) and directed her site to the reflection and said, "We look pretty natural together". She laughed and agreed.
I think I could have possibly kissed her at this point, I instead used the time constraint of I was actually late to meet some friends (which played as completely legit as I was on my way out of the mall anyways), told her that I really felt like there was an immediate connection between us and I wanted to see her again and that we needed to get together for a bite to eat and walk around and people watch on Tuesday after memorial day is over. She gave me her number without me having to ask for it. This went so much better than I would have ever expected. I am not used to approaching women outside of environments such as a bar, and to be honest found myself experiencing a huge rush after number closing this girl as I was leaving the mall.
Input and suggestions or recommendation for any neg related openers would be greatly appreciated. I like the usage of the opinion, but I think for me, that this is best to use on larger groups as an opener. I don't feel comfortable approaching a 2 set with an opinion opener. That comes across as a pretty blatant pick up attempt. I think they can work on a 3 or more set because even though it may still come across as cliche, if the delivery is right and your energy is initially focused on the less attractive/male members of the set that the bitch shields are eventually disarmed as the target is swept up in the act and begins to feel the desire to be included in these conversations, even if they were initially apprehensive of your initial opinion pick up line.
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