I just got this e-mail from a girl I kissed. It was my first success, and although I aint overly bothered about seeing her again, I think it is a shit test, cos she is still sendin me texts askin me on a date, and I definately didnt get stuck in the LJBF zone, and she wasn't "likin me as a mate" when she was sticking her tongue down my throat. I want to reply, but I need something witty and something that dhv's well. Here is the e-mail:

You see, for 5 months i've liked this boy in my year. I still like him right now. I dont think anyone could stop me from liking him. :S
I really do like you, m'dear. But the thing is, although you're a nice guy, but i don't know you that well to be dating you.
I'm really sorry about this,
but i think that you and me could be awesome friends!
and i'd love to carry on texting you!

Who knows what the future could bring?

anyways, i hope you understand how i'm feeling.
Your a great guy, tom, and you deserve someone who actually likes you, and not as a friend.

Im sorry again.
Loves, xxx

Im really sorry, I came up with this as an answer, please say if it is all right. Its about my reputation more than anything that i am bothered about (her twin sister is a Hb8, she is only a 7.5):

Hey, Jess, I aint known you any longer than you have known me, and I quite like this girl in our year. I wasn't looking for anything serious with you, but I figured that if i spent all of my time going after one girl, then life would lead no-where. It is up to you what to do about yourself, but make your descision. I like you, and would like to get to know you better. If you can't do it I understand, but all I will say is: I have only known you as long as you have known me, and it is natural to have second thoughts. Think about it. I would like being friends with you if nothing more, but I have to say I never date friends because it leads to fall-out. You have to decide now whether you can grasp this oppertunity or not. It doesn't affect me, it's your descision.

c u soon
Tom
xxx

wow that's awful. Here is why:
This means she thinks that you are chasing her, and she is attracted to you but not very much, not enough to stop crushing on some other guy.
Translation: You let me walk all over you/failed my shit tests, and I am bored and uninterested by you.
LJBF!
Translation: I know I could have you anytime I want, so actually I don't want you.

Basically stop being a chump. Go read some books, go talk to strangers and get over your oneitis, I can tell just from her letter to you that you came off as being way too AFC all around with her.

I don't think there was anything you could say to her at this point, but there were plenty of things not to say to her lets take a look:

what you type: what she reads: "Oh, you like some other guy, oh uh... shit well yeah I like this other girl too. That's so funny that we both like other people."
She already made a decision, there was nothing indicating any remaining interest in you, or that she was choosing between you and soemone else in her e-mail. You're coming off as needy here.

What you type: What she reads: "I'm in love with you, and want to bang you. If you don't want to have sex with me, I will be sad but I won't try to recapture your interest and give up hope. Also I'm a pussy."

What you type: What she reads:"I'm just lucky enough that someone like you wants to even be friends with a loser like me. I don't date friends because none of my friends are attracted to me. Since I'm not confident or a leader of any sort I'm going to give you all of the power in this relationship since I think it will make you happy, and I will do anything to make you like me. Please choose me. PLEASE. I DONT WANT TO DIE A VIRGIN."

Thanks man, but all I can say is I DEFINATELY dont have oneitis. DEFINATELY dont.

But i see were i went wrong thanks for the advice. Ur a good guy.

Yes, I agree with that hard to swallow examination of your response. It looks like you were falling in love with her and a lot of girls will drop you when you start showing a love interest. These type of girls just want to be banged by multiple people. Girls and guys both. Good advise it to not fall in love with a hoe.

I disagree, WEll, i agree with everything above. But according to microcalibration,each girl and each situation is different. Sometimes the way to a girls pants is the same way as the girls heart. Sometimes being a sweet, good guy, with a little bad boy, non AFC side works better then negs and such. Each situation and each girl is different. It seems like the girl that wrote you that letter was more of a generic girl in which youd have to neg, bounce, this and that.. jsut folow the handbook... the kinda girls that want a genuinly sweet guy, the way to the heart is the way to the pants kinda girls dnt go to clubs or bars often.. i might be wrong too cuz all girls are different.. but yeah, you would be able to spot them if your good enough!

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Woah guys, steady. I was NOT falling in love with her- i met her once for goodness sake. Its her sister Im after, which Is why I wanted not to be a jerk over it. I dont mind her ditchin me, shes a 6, her Twin Sister is an 8. Definately no love there man!