Y'alrite guys,

I'm gunna try and keep this as short as I can, cause a load of bollocks coming from a randomn person isn't the most fun thing to read.

Firstly, I'm 17, quite new to this 'community' and interested in this girl. I therefore told her she should meet up with me in the centre of town. We did but I've got a couple of questions regarding this meet up and you seem to be the guys to be asking.

Firstly, this chick isn't what you guys call a one 'itis' or whatever. I think she's genuinly cool even after getting with other people. I therefore decided to meet up with her and it went well apart from a couple of (major) things,

1) She heard from a friend that I got with a 32 year old. This was a bet with a group of my friends but I'm guessing this will not work in my favour at all.
2) The meet up went well. She was really into it, laughing at all my jokes, playing with her hair, open body language all the common indicators of interest. But then i went in for a kiss and she hesitated. She was like I really really like you but I don't want to be hurt. She's saying this because we only have exams left and she'll be going back to her country for like 2 months in summer. Afterwards she'll come back and go to Uni here and I'll be gap yearing so I'm guessing it could have worked but she was talking bout past experience as well and all the shit about liking someone to much. I told her she was right and strong for saying so and told her that i'm completely cool with it cause there will always be new people which is true. The only problem here is that before i said i was completely cool with it I said I was fed up of stuff meaning nothing with girls. I told her i thought she was different in that sense and told her she was holding back. I could see this really got to her in a positive way therefore I dont regard showing the way I feel as as a fuck up. I told her how i felt she did too, I'm fine with that.
3) Did I mess up here? Cause, I'm pretty sure she regreted what she said cause she seemed really emotional afterwards. I didn't try again and took her to the tram stop. I'm not the most observant person on earth but on the way back she was way more confused and emotion.

Finally, she seems a pretty cool person and I wouldn't mind actually going for her. The only thing is I don't want to come over as an "AFC" cause I'm not. Also on the way back she said stuff like 'please don't ignore me at school' etc. But I'm not the type of guy that's gunna be spending my time trying to win her over in that way.

So, since I obviously do not have as much experience as you guys I'm asking for your advice. I'm gunna be honest. I've used quite a bit of material when I go out and it really works. But as I said before it's cool hooking up with people on nights out but how can I use material in this case cause it seems like a more complex situation (for me atleast). So basically what do you guys advice me to do?

Thanx for reading through this and any replies will be highly regarded.

Cheerz.

sounds like you didnt build enough comfort, when ive known a girl for a while and shes not comfortable kissing i use LMR techniques to make her feel more uncomfortable then go back to trying. Sometimes it takes a lot of persistence and caveman kino escalation.

Alright, you didn't kissed her. That's past. You gotta lift your chin and move on.

Don't ignore her. But act like you "Seize the the day, or die regreting the time you lost." (hahah one song I just like)...

A PUA don't care if you're not gonna see her again. If she was like "I don't wanna get hurt... " You should act like : "Ok, I won't let you get hurt (hug her)... " That's what a pua artist do, you gotta show confidence to her.
Remember, if she stays with the "I liked you, but.. " back off... You don't wanna waste time with people like this. A pua has a lot of options, so you don't need to be limited. DHV is so important. Don't let it decrease for a girl that don't even deserve it.

So this is my advice. Be nice to her, and ask her out again ( of course follow all the routines ). Then try to improve kino escalate and show to her CONFIDENCE.

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Aite, Im definitely at the right place for good advice. This forum and you guys are truly wicked (apart from choraumm's bollocks taste in music ). But what you guys were saying makes sense.

To be honest thinking back at the night I'm sure I could have kissed her but the fact that I didn't probably worked more to my advantage. As I said before, I told her i was completely cool with her "I really like you but don't wanna get hurt" shit. I said I wasn't gunna try again and gave off the whole 'your loss' vibe. I'm judging this worked because at school I can see her glaring at me.

I havn't texted her yet, cause as cool as I think she is, I don't see this as being my duty. If I'm right about here still liking me she should text me, or was my 'I'm not going to try again' together with the 'I don't care at all' vibe too robust? I think, as choraumm said, taking her out again is the best solution. But how do you bring up such an idea without going against my 'im not gunna try again' statement. I would truly hate coming across as needy and a casual "I need some female help with buying my mum a present" doesnt seem to the point right? But anywaz, I don't wanna look back and say I didnt try. Btw, anyone replying do this take into consideration that ive nearly finished school so any 'long term' solutions arn't desirable.

But anywaz, thanx to anyone replying.

You can ask her out for a "non-threat date". It's just something like run in the streets, ask for help with something from school, stuff she won't even imagine what are your real intentions...

You gotta talk to her. Talking to girls after things like this, acting like nothing had even happens shows them that you're a enough confident guy to go ahead. Act as nothing had happened. Let her curiosity bring you to that conversation, and then you just oughta work kinos ( always high five, pass hands over head, that's a way to make her confortable with you.. ) then you can move to a more hot kinos, like hug, smelling....

But don't show lack of confidence. You must have everything under control. At least give this impression to her.

And again, Good Luck!

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"The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed." - Carl Jung