Sup good folks?

Was out last night (special night for students, norwegian tradition thing where most people get too drunk, or at least drink alot more than usual), and ran into "sober girl" again for those who read my last post.

She has brown hair (dreads) and blue eyes (I LOVE the brown hair, blue eyes combination), was walking down the street with her friend and we got to talking somehow. At some point she "swiped" her hand down my face, can't remember why... but I did the same to her. HBblueeyes stops walking and her friend slows down and gives me the ugliest look she can and says something like "you're not allowed to do that!", I figure, fuck it, I just lost the set, who cares, I haven't even hit the club yet... So I continue walking.

Then suddenly the HBblueeyes walks faster and says "I like this guy, he's rude as fuck!". It was about then we came to the club and I saw a female friend of mine passed out on the pavement with another female friend crying her eyes out while i heard the faint sound of ambulence sirens going off. Lost HBblueeyes while trying to help my friends... but the question is... WHAT THE HELL!? I swipe her face back, so she has to "recheck" her eyelashes, her friend is mad, and now she likes me for it!? :S Don't really understand that one. If someone does, feel very free to explain.

Second "wtf episode" happened later with HB"Gangsta" (she was wearing a hoodie all night long).

I had these small kindof bunny ears on that I borrowed from a girl I know in the club that night. I sat down and HBgangsta wanted to touch them immediately, I of course said no, but started flirting with her. We had a good five minutes, I probably misted the five thousand IOIs she gave me, and somehow, for some reason, she stole my bunny ears (buhu
). She then started demanding to know something about me, I would then get the bunny ears back when i told her what it was. I said no (wouldn't that have given her the power or something? :s) then took the bunny ears back.

She said something like "you're skrall (nor to english trans: wierd)" then procided to talk to her friends with her back to me. I went somewhere else.

What happened there? Can't figure this one out, thought I did everything right, I was gonna tell her whatever it was when I got the ears back...

met her later that night btw... on the way home, can't remember what happened but i smacked my own ass for some reason (= for fun) at her and then she came and put a finger on my butt and did the "tsss" "your hot" sound.

I also managed to knee a guy in the head (not on purpose ) while he was talking to a girl I'm not talking to.

The first thing you need to understand about women is that nothing they do is logical - everything is emotional for a woman. Women follow their emotions 110% (including attraction) which can change like the weather.

There is no one size fits all for attracting women. What a woman responds to is a mix of social programming, her friends, her experiences, her beliefs and her own personality. You can't just learn one thing and apply it to every woman.

HBblueeyes was used to getting her way with guys and you stood your ground which is a great move - you showed her that you weren't afraid to give her shit right back to her. She didn't like you because she originally saw you as an AFC but found you attractive when you showed that you were different from other guys.

What you passed was a double shit test. By waving your hand back at her you passed her first test by giving her back what she gave you and you passed her second shit test by when she said "You can't do that" and showed her you weren't going to play her games. You conveyed an "I don't give a fuck, I don't have time for this shit" atitude which set off her attraction triggers. The recheck of the eyelashes was an IOI and a form of preening - you got her flustered.

HBgangsta was a slightly different case - she didn't understand what was running through your mind any more than you understood what was going through hers. She was flirting with you and was shit testing you by stealing your bunny ears. You did the right thing by refusing to let her touch them (good peackocking by the way!).

The problem was that you didn't understand what was running through her mind. She was giving you a lot of value and was trying to steal your bunny ears as a way of seeking value from you in response to the value she was giving you. When you stole the bunny ears back and didn't give any value in return to all the value she had given you, you came off as an arrogant prick and lost her interest. Sounds like you recovered later though.

- Chris

Thanks for the reply man, HBblueyes I kindof thought it was the fact that I didnt take shit, but just caught me off guard I guess when she said that she liked me being rude.

HBgangsta, thank you very much for this one, I couldn't sense that she was flirting (really need to work on this), what I should have done was held around her smiling and laughing, maybe teasing her of being a thief, made her jump a hoop before I jumped hers. Fuck man, this girl was gorgeous too, well, whatever, I live in a small town I'll probably see her again if not, whatever

You fuckin' got it man! One-itis definitley won't getting you anytime soon which is really cool - you can put all your focus on improving your craft and meeing as many women as possible.

The reason she liked you being rude is because girls are far more intrigued and curious about what they don't understand than guys. She liked you because she was intrigued by you as a guy who was real (your average attractive woman doesn't meet many real men). You were being alpha by dominating her reality which turned her on.

You pretty much got it now with HBgangsta as well you just need to remember that giving value isn't a bad thing as long as she is giving it to you. If you give too little you come off as desprate. If you give too much you come off as needy. The key is to find a good balance.

And yes make her jump through hoops. Think of her like a dolphin - make her jump through the hoops but always have a reward at the end so she feels like she's getting something she wants for her hard work.

- Chris

Thanks man but how to I give her value..?

I've hit the sticking point of not being able to kiss women, strange because I haven't had that before... Just feel like I'm not getting to that point where I feel I can kiss her, though I probably am, I'm just missing it.

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