Have been talking to an HB for about a month now from college, over that time got her digits, hung out after class a few times, lots of good conversation, teasing back and forth, bit of kino escalation. A few funny playful random late night texts.

Told her last week that I was heading to the mall to get some shopping done...told her to tag along. She agreed, but she had an exam the next week so she wanted to keep it short (3 hours) so she could head back to school to study later. We meet up, and again: good conversation, playful teasing, some kino. I accused her of getting us carried away, so that I didn't actually get any shopping done - she replies 'well, we can go out again after my exam, go to a better mall or something'. I took that as a good sign.

This week rolls around, we talk on Instant Messenger, I tell her I actually got my shopping done with another person that morning (which was true), which she doesn't act too phased by (of course hard to judge emotions over a computer screen). I tell her how life is getting hectic with exams, but I tell her that I have been finding time to hang out for a few hours every night to stay sane. She replies telling me all she is planning to do this week as well.

The next day (today) she IMs me again, saying she was bored, had nothing to do. I told her I was busy studying...didn't talk to her much but I called her in the afternoon around 5pm, fluff talk for a minute then tell her that I'm planning to study till 10pm, but that she should come pick me up from the college library at around 10pm and 'we will go on an adventure'. She agrees, and I tell her I'll call her back closer to 10.

I call her close around 9:40, no answer. I call back around 10:20, she answers saying:
HB:'hey I can't come out actually, and my phone wasn't working when you called'
Me: 'i see. you should have called from home to let me know,'
HB: 'well, i'm out right now - not in my car, so I couldn't call...I couldn't get my own car out tonight'
Me: 'well, have fun then' (end call).

Her excuse seems pretty bullshit, but it did seem like she was out, I thought I heard a car stereo on in the back. I was a little let down, but ended up going out with a couple friends anyway so at least the night wasn't a waste. However, I was still quite pissed in general...things seemed to be going well after a month long of what I believed was flirting.

I just want to know, how would some of you guys react to her when you next speak with her? Call her out on it, or act as if it was no big deal? Have any of you been in this situation? Should I assume maybe I read her wrong, and that she isn't interested despite what I thought? Also, what if she suggests hanging out again, etc? I know she might want to meet up to study together sometime, but maybe I shouldn't bother wasting time with her?

anyone have an ideas at all? would appreciate any input, as i'd like to be prepared for the next time i talk to her, which could be soon

Well bud, I found myself in a pretty similar situation a few months back. After a few weeks of flirting and IOI's I decided to ask this HB10 out for a valentine’s day date. She said yes and that was that. Well Valentine’s Day comes around and in the morning she txt's me saying she got called into work for the night and she couldn’t go, but wanted to reschedule. I didn’t respond and the next day in school I laid down the law. I told her that I found it to be disrespectful of my time and that if this is how she is going to act in the future then we shouldn’t waist our time because I’m not going to put up with this shit ( yes I did say SHIT to her ) LOL. After a few days of not talking I had her asking me out and I ended up with a k close. (But that’s another story)

So to answer your?, I would say to lay down the law, your an important person and you time is limited and you’re not going to put up with that kind of SHIT!!!

BUT
Make sure she knows that you’re willing to lose her, if she doesn’t follow your rules then SHE’S GONE. She blew her shot at YOU, not the other way around.

But that’s just my 2 cents, hope this helps

Keep us updated on the situation and good luck

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Well, I've just been too busy to bother with her..also school is ended we're just in exams so we dont see each other at school. However, she did message me on facebook basically saying a short and sweet 'hows it going?' kinda thing, to which I ignored, and got a whole slew of messages from other girls afterwards to preoccupy my time with.

If I ran into her, I was planning on not being a dick about what happend, since I found out her phone truly does screw up quite a bit. At the same time, she could have made some effort to contact me when she knew she was changing her plans, which she didn't...I'm thinking of acting indifferent to her until she starts to show me some additional signs of interest. The point would be..."I don't really give a fuck", she was rude, but I still went out that night and had fun without her. But at the same time, I'm not going to continue to actively pursue her, and if she wants me to she's going to have to pursue me first.

She finally broke the ice, and I made small talk for a while. She asked me to call her if I was at school tomorrow, I asked her didn't she have anyone else to hang out with? I can tell she felt burned by this, she replied with a 'im not beging you gees, dont flatter yourself!' to which i told her she was a tad bit overdramatic and i dont like overdramtic people. she said she was just being sarcastic...

i told her 'well anyway, im kinda busy right now' and she kept conversation going regardless but i responded to her much later on...and i can tell she was trying to get some attention.

anyway....Im regaining control of the frame...any advice on keeping it this way when i run into her..which i inevitably will this week?

Keep doing what you are doing. Don't settle for being second place on her list. It's her that is second on your list, not the other way around. If she doesn't like that, keep stepping.