Here's the situation. There is this girl I've known since 7th grade who is probably a HB9. We havent talked in years and the last 4 months or so we started talking and I visited her a month ago. (i'm 20, she's 20 and we're both 5 hrs away at different colleges).

When I went to visit her for a day and a night at college she told me she had a bf after I arrived but we still cuddled and stuff anyway since he was away. However I was kinda bummed out since I didn't know before hand she had a bf until she brought it up as we were talking so I left the next morning to go home and I decided to move on with this girl and she or I didn't IM or anything afterwards for like a month

Then tonight she IM's me asking me for help on her paper which I joked saying ok but im going to charge. However towards the end of the convo she was getting un-responsive and I didn't want to appear needy or be the only keeping the convo going since she usually just idle's out online without any goodbyes and she only IM's like every few months so It's hard to talk to this girl. I feel like if she truely cared she would show more interest, am I right? Anyway the end of the convo went something like this.

coolchaz0426 (1:00:42 AM): haha ok
coolchaz0426 (1:13:51 AM): haha well im about to head to bed so maybe I'll see you in the next life
(1:13:58 AM): shush
(1:14:00 AM): so not true
(1:14:05 AM): i IMed you
coolchaz0426 (1:14:12 AM): and?
coolchaz0426 (1:14:21 AM): my friends IM me all the time
(1:14:22 AM): so mayeb it will happen again
(1:14:34 AM): ha BUT ITS ME
coolchaz0426 (1:14:41 AM): what makes you so special?
(1:14:58 AM): i never IM ppl
(1:15:06 AM): they IM me
coolchaz0426 (1:15:16 AM): haha ok
coolchaz0426 (1:15:53 AM): but you IM'd cuz you needed my papers
coolchaz0426 (1:15:54 AM): haha
coolchaz0426 (1:16:14 AM): your full of BS
(1:17:09 AM): HJJVHLJHJV>
coolchaz0426 (1:17:17 AM): call me on my B day and maybe i'll change my mind but I'll bet you $200 your not going to do that unless you need more papers to borrow
(1:17:34 AM): what
(1:17:36 AM): bullshit
(1:17:41 AM): that was really low of you
coolchaz0426 (1:17:53 AM): haha ok
coolchaz0426 (1:18:13 AM): im sorry if I hurt your feelings
(1:18:36 AM): you did
(1:18:39 AM): that was really shitty
(1:18:46 AM): and ur not sorry bc u meant what u said
coolchaz0426 (1:19:09 AM): actually I wasn't that serious about it
coolchaz0426 (1:19:20 AM): but if you are then I apologize
(1:21:06 AM): its fine.
(1:21:07 AM): good night
coolchaz0426 (1:21:15 AM): nite
coolchaz0426 (1:23:18 AM): btw if you need help its never a problem, sorry If it appeared to be, I was just pulling your strings
(1:23:31 AM): thanks. now get some sleep
coolchaz0426 (1:23:55 AM): jee thanks
(1:24:01 AM):
(1:24:05 AM): sleep


when it appeared she got insulted I stared at the screen for like 3 minutes thinking "should I AFC it or just sign off". I felt like a jerk saying what I did but I really liked this girl and just felt used since she only IM'd me for help not just to see how I was doing after it had been almost 5 weeks since we saw each other in person. So I AFC'd and gave in at the end. What should I have done guys, help me out. What should I say next time?

Looks like you spent about 30 seconds to decide to go AFC... Who cares if she got upset about what you said? Maybe it will make something in her brain click and realize it was the truth. It wasn't even that mean, she overreacted and I would have called her out on it. Or a simple "the truth hurts" would have worked.

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yea thats what I thought firebird, I just don't know why when i'm sticking up for myself I feel like an ass and go all AFC and apologize whenever girls seem to get defensive or upset over something I said both in person and online , I need to work on that.

Anyone else have any advice to how I can handle a conversation next time?

u shud start with a bang !!!

ur 1st statement shud come out of no wer ....

like "hv u ever heard abt roller coaster theory........or the monkey theory...."

or can praise her beauty in poetic style....which of course shud b out-of-box....

once u get a response play ur routine...whichever u hv prepared.....n i assure u thr is no harm in playin online....infact it gives u much time to think. also initially ur response shud b fast then weh u start ur routine keep ur cool and shudnt look excited.....b n alpha male atleast for her.....