Here's one I'm struggling with. Its a double bind. If he goes not cool. If I complain not cool. BF destroyer?

New S.T: "Really looking forward to meeting you! sorry this might shatter your heart. Do you mind if I bring my BF?"

is that a shit test or her just asking to dance wit you?

IOI all the way bro, hit the dance floor!

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she's trying to make you jump through her hoop, so make her jump through yours first... after she jumps through your hoop, its okay to jump through hers, because she jumped first...

dance with me...

Wait here, I've got to pee, then I'll rock your socks off...

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this is crazy, get on the dance floor and escalate.

Haha, this becomes a shit test if it turns out you suck at dancing.

This is an excellent way to reframe though I don't particularly like how you did it. I don't like saying huh, nobody likes the sound of that and the second part needs to be more playful. Just keep this mindset that a man should lead and it should be an excellent way to put you in the driver's seat.

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if you arent comfy with dancing how will you do the thing that comes next?

I kinda had this happen to me a few nights ago at a party, all night i was trying to talk to a girl but kept getting interrupted by other girls wanting to talk to me, so i finally got to talking to her and it was going great when then two girls butted in trying to get my attention after about 2 mins the girl i was trying to chat to left.

A bit later on i talked to her again and said "you left me with the wolves", she replied with "i thought thats what you wanted?"

Now what would've been a good answer back to that??

I said something like, "no I was talking to you that was rude of them"....then i continued the convo

it depends on the situation if you want to dance or not.

you want to dance if you want to isolate and do kino

you do not want to dance if its not the right time or place to kino REMEMBER THAT. just dancing for dancing, without doing kino is just dumb-ass...>> you are not a girl that should wiggle her booty, you are not gay

so if you think NO dancing is smart what do you do?
*just roll your eyes (like she's nuts) *
stay alpha and ignore the comment after rolling your eyes.
and then start another subject
if she's unwilling to go to another subject, open somebody next to you and ignore her.

if you do want to dance (only when its the time for kino and possible in the place you are dancing):

HB:Come dance with me.
You: Huh? Wait are you a man?
HB: Uh...?!? No!
You: Ok. I'm the man I lead. (Big Smile)

[Take her hand and start walking to the dancefloor.]

you know its funny because thats how i used to pick up girls: seduction on the dance floor. im really good at it. but to be fair, its not solid game. i could walk the walk, but not necessarily talk the talk if you know what i mean.

my first time out sarging (officially, with canned openers and dhv routines), me and my wing agreed to no dancing unless we had already started to DHV. we did horribly. Granted, it was a sunday night and no one was out anywhere, but we froze up and didnt even get to use our material because we didnt open a single set. talk about stepping out of your comfort zone. I like it though. its a new challenge.

i guess what im trying to say is that we all have different natural abilities, but the true pua does'nt rely solely on them, and instead seeks to master his weaknesses.

so work on those dance moves, buddy! a favourite of mine which is easy and cheezy but fun and conveys dominance. you just say while dancing "twirl for me" while taking her hand and putting it up in the air. swoop her back in after the twirl with assertion, but just as quickly tease her with a smile and push her away. they always come back and it makes you look and feel like a pro even if your a joe.

Cheers!

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If a girl is asking you to dance, then she is doing just that. No shit test. If you want to say something funny instead of just saying "ok" you could try this:

HER: Let's go dance
YOU: I guess I could give you a few pointers

orrr....

HER: Let's go dance
YOU: I give lessons Monday, Wednesday, Thursday....charge is $10 an hour.

HB: dance with me
PUA: i take debt and credit but cash works ok, too
HB: blah blah

hahahahaha

ask her "are you a man"

i like these... will definitely try them the next chance i get!

what i've used a few times with reasonable success:

her: come dance with me
me: ok, but only if you buy me a beer first
her: whyyyy?/ahhh pleaseee?
me: hey, you like dancing, i like dancing with beer. its win win

only use this on a girl who's been giving you a lot of IOI's. if she's the playful type it'll work even better...
delivery: very playful.

seeing as i hate dancing, getting her to take me to the bar and buy me a beer gives me more time to work on comfort which helps in cutting the dancing short and bouncing somewhere else with her.