I've been taking a break at PUA stuff since college has gotten hectic with my engineering course load the last thing I can focus on is girls unfortunatly but on the flip side it's gotten me preoccupied so I really just don't care about girls at the moment, however a situation just fell in my lap within the last 3 days, sorry it's long but any advice on this one would be awesome!


So there is this girl in my college physics class who I liked at the beginning of the semester 2 months ago and she was giving IOI's at the time when she asked me if I knew how to do a pop quiz (large class). Come to figure that she had a bf so I moved on and we didn't talk since I usually sit with my friends in that class. 3 days ago she came and sat next to me in class (got up from her original seat and moved to me) to ask me some HW questions which I helped her with and she was givng me major IOI's such as sustained eye contact while smiling, leaning in towards me alot and laughing and she asked if she could facebook me and I gave her my info.

I was playing it cool and confident while being myself since I am not "actively" looking for a relationship but I do kinda like this girl. I made sure I was in a relaxed sitting posture and was slow with my speech and calm and just really laid back which worked really well. She later IM'ed me at first to do some HW problems then we started talking for hours and I feel we have a lot in common, especially after she admitted she's kinda shy which I am too naturally.

We spent the last 2 nights talking but just like 10 minutes ago she was like "well i'm going to hang out with my bf!" I use to see him with her awhile back in class (weeks ago) but while i was talking to her I didn't so I was assuming they weren't speaking or they broke up but why would she lead me on like this? I wasn't responding to her IOI's that much either to fall into that trap, I often just teased her like my little sister after starting to talk to her and the cockyness seemed to really be working.

We're still talking but it took me by surprise since I was starting to assume something happened to the bf since she was acting like it by actively qualifying me as bf material saying things like

"we have so much in common" "you seem really confident" "way back in september I hope you didn't think I blew you off"

she was saying those things sporadically as we talked, and I was starting to talk to her like I could potentially make a free move, any tips to sweep this girl off her feet or be a bf killer, or should I just move on a 2nd time. This happened to me like 3 other times in the past year where different girls will give IOI's and lead me on to where i'm assuming she's single and interested and things go well until she busts the BF line and only to find out she really does have a bf. It's really confusing. It's not like I stated talking to her first, except for 1 or 2 times online to respond to her IM's she's always initiated convo so it's not like I put myself in the LJBF zone.

Am I doing anything wrong. I've just been myself minding my own buisiness but being social too when I have time and these things fall into my lap ever so often, although interesting its frustrating that I can't get a relationship off the ground because of this gay fake IOI stuff. Any tips guys?

no one?

They aren't fake IOIs. They are genuine. Maybe she is just in a relationship to be in one, some girls will hop from boyfriend to boyfriend as they are afraid to be alone. So she must make sure she can have that girlfriend status with someone else before she makes the leap. Ask her to hang out, make a study session or whatever. Spit game and see what happens. As I've read, it seems as though you've responded to everything she's done. Don't. Make her jump through hoops before rewarding her, especially with homework.

Also, I'm not saying she is the girl I described above. I'm just saying she could be. She could also be very flirty...

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