Hi guys,

Work behind the bar at local club as a second job, and recently the uni lot have been back for holidays, one of them really did catch my eye and we clicked immediately really got on with her... the only downside is she's seeing one of the supervisors at the club although everyone says its just a thing for when she's back from uni etc. And i can see why they really dont have much in common etc...

Anyway first time went out with her (along with everyone else from the club) she was giving lots of IOI's and ended up getting depressed over her situ with her bf ignoring her most of the night and not giving her much interest but cheered her up a bit which eventually resulted in her sat on my lap while her bf was just the other side of the room...

Pretty much more of the same inbetween then and now until last tuesday we all went out into town together... had pretty good night which included (from her) a few kisses on the cheek and one quick kiss on the lips (literally no more than that though) and i then ended up gaming someone else in our (huge) group when she went off with her boyfriend who was also out that night and we all got the taxi back...

Later on (gone 4am) when had got home got a call from her depressed again over bf situ as he'd upped and left the second he got a call from someone he knows (another girl) who was at the hospital as someone she knew was having their stomach pumped, then once he had got back he blanked her completely and went to bed... which led to said call, but during the call i went AFC and told her that i would tell her she doesnt deserve him but it would be biased if i did as i really liked her which kind of killed convo off quite quickly... now things are a bit awkward between us, her bf thinks i've declared my undying love for her? and apparently she wants to talk to me about stuff but couldnt when worked with her at the weekend as her bf was about

not too sure what to do from here thinking about phoning her and hoping her bf not there and playing it from there.. anyone else any better suggestions?

edit: appologies for length of this post quite alot to take in but have been trying to play it throuh and have messed up at the last bit so best to let you know all of the facts in the situation

anyone any thoughts? possibly a bit in depth for newbie q's but cant post anywhere else really

I'd definitely say you AFC'd it! Don't worry, I've done it a few times. It took me years to perfect being an AFC, I still have a few of the habits!!

I'd love to be able to give some advice here but you're better off waiting for one of the better PUAs to answer.

hey dude sounds like you got yourself in a bit of a sticky situation but dont worry alot of us have been there, and im gonna try help you out you can take my advice or leave it upto you but if i was you i would start off by cooling things down with her dont be so keen remember your the prize ok so wat you need to do is maybe start speaking to her a little less and with not as much enthusiasm but always smile and look in to her eye when you talk, when you talk though it should come across as if your interested this is th smiling and looking into her eyes but you are to busy to speak properly this will make her feel more mutual then you can build your game up again good luck.

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I agree with Julian up to a point. Be polite. Start backing away, but don't always smile. It's good to show a range of emotions. Someone who is always happy is weird. Plus she might take it as SHE always makes YOU happy, which would raise her value and lower yours.

When it comes to women that have boyfriends, the answer is simple. Show higher value than him! Women who swear that they are in love, married, etc, will always cheat on their boyfriends with someone who has higher S & R value. Don't point out his flaws (hating is a no no). Expose your strengths! There are countless DHV stories and techniques on this forum to learn and use. DHV, build comfort,show interest, then seduce. You don't want to get caught in the FZ.