Hey what's up guys? I'm just curious what you guys think b/c i was torn between how i should act as a PUA with a girl...but this situation involved regular friends.

Friend invites me to party at his college...i invite these 3 girls b/c they always enjoy having fun and hanging out. We've all chilled a lot within the past month or so and i consider them my friends...as we have good discussions..can sit in a room with a few beers on a tiring day and just have fun.

Therefore i felt more affection and a bond with these people opposed to some girl i just met and had a few fluff talk conversations with. Basically...the one girl's friend was going to drive down to my school and then drive us to the other college. B/c of this, i told my original ride he didn't have to come.

Text her hour before i wanted to leave...basically are you ready and where we meeting? No response for 20 min..i call and i get "we decided not to go to that party because my friend just left and she won't be here for awhile...we're just going to the frat house to drink".

Now i'm pissed. Fortunately my other friend is more so real and is still coming to pick me up...but if he didn't feel like it(due to missing out some of the party) i wouldn't blame him.

If this was some girl...then i'd simply cut ties and say fuck them...but these are people that i felt more rapport with since we'd spent time together so i feel silly saying "i don't talk to people that inconsiderate, bye" and never talk to her again over this incident.

How should i react? I mean she's not my BEST friend(more girls involved, but she was only one i really spoke with via phone) so that's why she's to blame. Would you guys completely cut off someone you'd spent a decent amount of time with over a situation like this? Just for the record this isn't a heart breaking situation...but BECAUSE pua has effected other areas of my life besides just getting girls....i want to know how a PUA mindset would be to this situation so i can recall later on how best to react as i'm sure i'll be disappointed by friends atleast once more before i die haha.

Thanks for reading!

Don't cut her off, but you still need to punish her. Zip gave me some good advice a while back: Tell her she was a real brat for not letting you know what happened sooner. Don't be mad or tense...just a bit charming. And don't let her interupt with excuses or apologies. "Let me finish" will suffice. Tell her to give you a call when she gets her act together and leave it at that. Say bye if on the phone or walk away if in person. Don't call or text her.

Granted that is just paraphrased, this would seem appropriate to your dilema. If it works, great! (Be sure to thank Zip) If it doesn't...oh well; you were contemplating ditching her anyway.

thanks man...i'll try that approach out.

As a friend it's your job to let them know when there doing something wrong or inconsiderate.
But don't be mad at them just let them know, nobodys perfect and we all get caught up in the momment sometimes. She'll get the hint if she really is your friend.

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we let so many dreams just slip through our hands...
Why must we wait so long before we see
How sad the answers to those questions can be?

If she is your friend, then I would tell her the truth.

"I was upset with you for not letting me know till the last minute because I made my plans around your schedule. It's not that big of a deal and I'm not all that mad anymore, but just don't let it happen again."

Be as candid as possible and she should respect the fact that you are being honest with her.

What would a high value guy do? I had a similar situation happen to me a ways back. What you do is, ..... nothing! U r a high value guy, if they dont hang out its their loss!

Think of it like a friend called you over to help him move his couch, then....right when u were about to leave to drive over there he calls and said "u know what, im just going to keep the couch where it is....so we dont need to move it". Would u be mad.....no. Same deal with the girls, u were doing them the favor by inviting them!

U r high-value, just go with someone else.....then freeze them out but dont act wierd when they call u....

They will be like "why havent u called us" and u just be like "been busy, u know....."

~kino

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"Life is short, when its done u cant start over"

It's bros before hos, not the other way around. You'll run into a lot more experiences where girls will be flaky; it's just their nature.