Ok, I saw a girl, good EC and I approached with a rather lame "do I know you". Yes I know I could have done better. I found that she was at University and I made some conversation with, "ah that's where I must have seen you". She cross examined with which campus and I said central and she said no, she was not there. Either ways I started asking about what she was studying and how long she had to go. She was smiling and stuff and was cheerful enough but started walking away from me. I hesitated and just said good bye and left.

What do you do when a girl starts walking away from you?

I borrow a line from mystery...

"Hey! Show's over here hunny"

This will get her attention, then stack to another DHV story. In your case I'd tell her something about a class you were in or some cooky professor you've had.

You dragged on too long, without truly hooking her, because you didn't associate yourself with something of interest to her. You need to get her to give you the information that you will use to hook her.

You were doing good with the "do I know you thread" and don't ever bash an opener that worked! I often just say, "Hey! How's it going?" to open, what's wrong with that? It opened and now we're talking, what more could you ask of an opener?

When she said she didn't go to the campus you said, then you brush it off and say, "Oh, you must have an evil twin!" or something like that. Who CARES if you've ever seen her before if she enjoys your company?!

When she starts taking off, then you break her frame. "HEY! I gotta get going, you held me up here for too long. *glare* So we'll have to continue this later. *hand her phone, or notebook and a pen*"


Zig, Mystery's line doesn't work well if she's ejecting from a set, cause she's just gonna make an excuse about having to go. Only use it when her attention wanders, not when she's trying to leave, cause now you're sounding too cocky, because she's not in rapport anymore.

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Rye Lee said everything I was thinkin, but he probably said it better than I would... =P

I don't mean to thread hijack so I'll just sneak this in under the radar...

Thanks Rye! Every time I've used this line it has been when the girl is looking around while I'm talking, good to know why it's most effective then.

I was chatting with Kino a few weeks ago and he suggested using something like "HEY!" with a hugely strong frame but that's something that hasn't been field tested. I suppose the real moral of the story is connect fast enough so that this isn't an issue.

rye lee hit it hard.

Sounds like you were asking too many questions before hooking her...
Seemed interrogative...
Remember you need to contribute or you are showing too much interest.

Hey how we all doing?

So in a situation where a girl is walking away take control eg...

"Hey were not done here"

"Wow, you just take what you want and leave"

"Are you always this unsocial-Lets try something"

At the same time I have to agree that you went on with a boring thread and that hurt your progress. School is what she talks about with every one else YOU'RE DIFFERENT and you must show her that.

ChowforNow,

the--------------------------------------->Saint

"Whether or not you agree with his harsh, straight to the point mentality, truth be told, he’s the most active/ dedicated / motivating member on this board. He’s routinely getting newbies and current members out sarging, pushing them into sets, given them suggestions and advice, replying to posts more often then anyone else. (Come out Wednesdays and you’ll see what I mean). Also, I have not once heard him making excuses about not going out and pussying out. If anyone else can show me this, I will automatically promote you to any status that you want on this board. (including admin).

Now .. I (and others) .. have tried a more sugar coated / feel good approach to getting guys to come out. Truth be told, it hasn’t worked anywhere close as well. I'm dissappointed that with all the free resources, and the cool guys that we have offering free advice, so few people actually make use of it, go out consistantly, and get better with women, instead of dabbling and keyboard jockeying."

"How did it start?Well, I dont know.I just feel the craving.I see the flesh and it smells fresh.And it's just there for the taking."

"Looking at my own reflection When suddenly it changes Violently it changes Oh no there is no turning back now You've woken up the demon in me"

"Only see, somehow it always seems that I'm learnin' or something I can never be It dosen't matter to me, 'cause I will always be that pimp I see
in all my fantasies I don't know your fucking name.So what?
Let's.fuck"

"Scrutinize every word, memorize every line
I spit it once, refuel, reenergize, and rewind
I give sight to the blind, mind sight through the mind

I've had this happen to me in the past, before I was even aware of the game, and now that I think back on it, I actually had a really good hook:

*Girl turns and starts to walk away*
You: *shrugs* "She walks away just as I'm about to help her, what a girl!"

*She turns around*
*You turn around to roll off*

Her: "Help me with what?"
You: "Ohoho, so now you need my help eh?"
-Neg here-
-Stack into something else-

If you manage to salvage it, and at some point she brings up what you were going to help her with, just throw in something like "I was going to tell you to smile more, it looks good on you"

You hook her by assigning her a lower value, in such a way that she thinks something is wrong, and you get assigned a higher value because you're the only one who can help her - but she's gotta earn it!