i dont know her that well, but i got her number after about 1 conversation.
what would be a good idea for a first call, and what would be a good opener?
also should this be a short convo? and should this end with us havin plans to go somewhere??

I only have answers to 2 questions.

- make it short... you should be a busy guy
- call after two days of receiving or later. dont look needy

And when you call her..invite her to the movies with your friends.

Because, you're an high valued male with LOTS of friends.

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how short is short?

Give her a call in the near future, but like what was said earlier, keep it short. After you ask her 'whats up?' I'd probably give her a slight neg on whatever she was doing using some sarcasm. Keep the conversation going for a few minutes since you only had a short conversation with her and you don't want to come off as being hasty. Just be playful and natural. Then after a minute or two throw in a time-constraint by saying 'I can't really talk now, but we should meet up X'.

Don't say things like 'if you're not too busy, we should meet up' etc. Tell her what, when and where. If your game was tight when you first spoke to her, she'll be eager to make time for you.

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I agree with what everyone said. try and get in a neg possible (light), get in maybe a quick DHV story. Maybe point out a good moment from the night before unrelated to your relationsship (re-establish the connection, this could be a silly moment).

Have a ftc ready and use it withing a min or 2. Also have something planned to invite her to. Best bet would be something you are gonna do with or without her. Assuming that this activity is tentative, or you made it up...cancel later on closer to the event, even day of/shortly before, and setup a different meeting. This could either be the same night just the 2 of you, or maybe to go do something else with other friends.

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Thanks, this is all good advice.
This will all probably work, I just gotta think of some openers, like a quick story!

u should also be the one to end the convo and tell her u have something to do

well i called and it didnt go too well, i mean shes like "im about to go to church". and like i was just like oh i call you some other time or something, it was stupid. is there anyway i can fix that?

Ok, first and foremost, IT NEVER HAPPENED. U have to get that in you're mind. Just try again as if it never happened - remember confidence is the key, don't be wierd but be interesting.

Also, u broke my number 1 rule NEVER and i mean NEVER CALL first - always text to begin with, especially if u r nervous - it appears less needy, gives u more time to thik and u r less likely to F up.

In summary, there's nothing to fix - just (preferably) txt her.

my rule...

i never call the day i get the number, or the day after.
if you're going to call, you need to call 'the day after tomorrow', or no more than 1 day after that. If you wait, she's already forgotten you and you'll have to remind her who you are.

i don't know if someone already wrote that or not, i didn't read all the posts.

How long? well... that's the tricky part. I would normally say keep it straight and to the point, you want to see her again so make the plan. However, I've been in situations where the conversation was interesting and continued. Don't forget, if she's interested the phone conversation is a great opportunity to DHV.

Agree? Disagree?

use a route of mine

13.00 text her 'Hey Pssst ...'
13.05 text her 'Pssst pssst ...'
13.10 text her 'I have this secret ...'

then wait ... let tension build up then call her ...

she will all played up and ready to talk ...