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This is a problem ive been having lately. In my school, alpha guy will say something that disrespects me and then other people will do the same. This is really hurting my game cos often times, there are girls present. What do I do when 3-4 of my peers are all making fun of me/saying things that are hurtful. What are ways that i can diffuse the situ?
trackstar, I went from being the biggest nerd in the beginning of sophomore year to one of the biggest alphas by the end of junior year. I went from being looked over by all the girls to having the hottest girls in school wanting me. You know how I did it?
I started standing up for myself, and began to live by one motto: "Always be willing to take it farther than the other guy." It's that simple. Dominance is really just a game of chicken. Another guy will challenge you, so you call his bluff. You guys just keep upping the ante until the other guy backs down. Hate to say it, but that's really the only way you're going to change your situation. You can't talk your way into respect.
This isn't just about dealing with some dicks at your school. This is about developing a mentality of self-respect. You have to become a guy who doesn't take crap from anybody, no matter how big they are. Over time, that mentality will become ingrained in your persona, and it'll translate through your movements and body signals. People will begin to sense it in you, and they'll show you respect without you having to do a damn thing.
A lot of guys try to act like they're tough; be the one who reminds them why they aren't.