Hello guys,

I've met this girl on my campus couple of months ago and after few times casual talking I got her number.

I started texting her, conversations were good. After a week, we met for a coffee outside of the campus, and after couple of weeks we went out again and I walked her home. During my 1 week holiday we texted 2-3 times at night till 3-4... She told me that she sees me as "a person that would do anything to get what he wants", and teasing me about how narcissist and egoist I am...

Anyways after couple of weeks and couple of going outs (there was some kino but light, since we were in the same social circle I thought that I didn't need to make a bold move), I thought that I got her because even after my intentions were clear she was talking me on the phone at the midnight because I had to wait for something, or she was initiating texting and giving me some books to read, asking me if I got home back safe after we met .

Last week, we went out and I was sure that things will get exclusive. As we were walking by the sea, I put my hand on her waist, and she withdrew herself and playfully made a joke. I laughed it off and changed the topic, we continued walking and sat and listened some music, but there was not a single spark I saw that I could make another move. And I sensed that things would get awkward if I held her hand or tried to kiss her...

Anyways, as we were outside of her home, I trusted my guts and told her that "I normally don't misinterpret these kind of things but I guess this time I misinterpreted, take care of yourself", she said "what do you mean ? we are not friends anymore ?" I said "No, I might have been a guy who would go around with you and tell you good things and stuff and act like your friend but I am not that kind of guy. I like you, and if things aren't going anywhere, I cannot give you attention" She replied "I see" and then she got home and I went my home back. After that day she came to my room in campus to give me my umbrella back, asked if I was angry at her, I said "should I be?" and then she asked "no hard feelings?" I said "none of your business", but she didn't leave the room and stayed there just saying nothing... And then left couple of minutes later. I didn't text, call or do anything to try to initiate contact. It's been 5 days.

So what are you guys thinking about this situation ? Did I misread the whole thing ? What should I do for the next time or what should have I done otherwise ?

It sounds to me that you were into her but she wasn't into you.

Sometimes its just the way it goes, people are like shapes and some shapes just dont fit together.

It sounds like you were cut by her not being interested where there was room for you to show your indifference to the whole thing. Her sensing you being angry at her would have been her confirmation that she had the upper hand in terms of attachment/value.

I would concentrate on meeting new girls. With new prospects comes options, when you have options you feel of higher value.

SEXUALITY.

IF you're interested in a woman you should be escalating EARLY and OFTEN. At least by the second date (but preferably the first) some significant sexual intent should have been shown.

Just because a woman gives you attention doesn't ALWAYS (although sometimes it does) mean that she's sexually interested. Sometimes, she just loves the attention. The only way to figure this out is for YOU to show clear sexual interest and escalate. Going out on 3-4 dates and having long midnight conversations should NOT have happened without you showing clear sexual interest.

A week of jibber-jabber, and then a coffee date?


The phone is for setting meet-ups. And coffee dates are lame.


I can only imagine how much boring texting occurred during those two weeks.

You: I can't help it if I'm good....

dude, go back and read the text I quoted. We are talking WEEKS and numerous dates without escalation. This woman was your friend, nothing more.
Sounds like a friend vibe.

Do you know how to tell when a woman is really interested in you?

She unzips your pants.

Uh...you haven;t even kissed her. How the fuck can it be exclusive?
WTF?


Weeks and numerous dates, and you don't go for the kiss?

You can't convince women to love yo through words, lol. You do it by being the fun, chill guy who's good in bed.

Honestly? You friend-zoned yourself by trying to play 12 dimensional-eighteeen-steps-to-a-kiss nonense. You schemed, you manipulated, you planned....and you ended up cockblocking yourself. This was a classic case of nice-guy male butler syndrome.

grow a pair of balls, and on the first date, you kiss the woman.

You need to print out this thread an tape it to your refrigerator. Your game sucks, and needs to be completely revamped.

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Just no. Tough love bro. "Text conversations" should be removed from your lexicon.

"Let's get a drink" should become the most eloquent thing you say over text, aside from a quick inside joke or reconnection comment to open the text convo.

With the next girls, when you're walking by the sea, sit down on a log together. If it isn't naturally "on" at that point it never will be.