work on your life, we are not going to fix your life, you are acting like a kid crying and all those things, life is HARD, women are MEAN, crap is EXPENSIVE, dont expect things to be easy like a videogame, its not going to happen.

See yourself in a mirror take a good look and think "is this the really best of who i am" o at least "am i taking action to be better?", if you are ALL THE DAY playing videogames, on internet, eating crap food, not working out, not going out with friends, doing stupid things that you really know u dont want to do but you do anyways because its "safe" dont expect to be a casanova, dont expect to be a winner either.

You need to stop this to think "ohhh only if the world was like a disney movie : (" there are many people in worst situations than you, kids starving to death, terminal desease patients, people witout a hospital in 100 kms, so stop crying because the thing is that you were being LAZY for 16 years thats why you are feeling like crap because in this very moment you are.

You are not going to die if a girl rejects you, or your dick will fall if she blows you away, but this is stupid to say, only with field experience you will know that what i say is true, if you dont go out and start living you will end with a sad sad sad life.

Its your choice man.

I'm actually improving now , talking to alot of women never been rejected tho O_O well once when the girl said, I have a boyfreind who I trust so I can't give you my number O_O, but she was nice anyway xD. These days I am trying my best to talk to women in public places, I still canot do street aproaches tho O_O but I'm working on it. But there is this huge hesitation that stops me from aproaching :/, but even after the 3 second rule I am able to aproach so it's wierd, but once I start talking to agirl I don't give a shit, even If michel jakson walks past I wouldn't give less of a shit.
oh and latest picture of me

seins345,
You got issues man. For real, you were young too at a certain age. Be more sympathetic cuz everyone does not have it as easy as you. We all work hard to get what we want; i do not think that this guy, supmag, wants everything just given to him. He is doing the best he can do. That is why he is here. LOL its funny that you are such a dick. Its cool, maybe you think that kind of iron fist advice would help....
supmag,
Keep doing your thing man. Im proud of you going outside your reality to make this happen for yourself. More than 90% of men do not do this. That should make you feel unique. It does that for me.
On a sidenote, the three sec rule is only for punks who doubt themselves. You can approach whenever you want as long as you approach. Just go for it. That will help you gain confidence and the relaxed nature you need to succeed....

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True that , I'll keep on trying, I can't really go out when ever I want cause of my family :/, I'll be moving out when I'm 18 then the real shit begins...

Yeah man. Dont try to rush things man, you are still young. And believe me when I say that many of us who are older when we learn this stuff think that you are so lucky to learn this at such a young age. Your quality of life will be so much better because of it.... Good luck!!!

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Thanks man and yh I'll try my best!

Can so relate to what supermag is saying here, but glad things are on the up for him atleast. Though at your age, you have so much time yet regardless .Whereas at 25, I dont ;-( Cut a long story short, I seem to have lost confidence, regained the approach anxiety and pretty much lost whatever it is I had, which I worked on upon discovering the community. I was the man this time last year for a period of a few months, but everything has gradually been eroded. I have never been much of a day gamer, even thru this period, but night game was good and improved signifcantly after discovering the community.

After 15 months, I seem to be in a worse place then when I started. Atleast prior to discovering the community, I was regularly getting action with HB6s, 7s and 8s, and didnt have a major major problem of approach anxiety.
One of the main things I have noticed, is that I was actually enjoying life this time last year.....whereas now I dont and am sort of in a rut . I see part of the cause ofapproach anxiety coming back, which in turn is also having a negative effect on my other general life. Circle of negativity.

Can anyone relate to some of the things I ve said here and possibly advise. e.g. removing approach anxiety,only for it to come back. Need to discover something to ensure that it is removed for the long term, cause frankly it is ruining my life, again ;-s Not looking for a magic bullet, and dont want to be pointed in the direction of what the specialists say . I actually want something suggested by you guys, from personal experience, which has worked for you.

Also has anyone used any self help books for confidence/hapiness etc? Any recommended, which actually work?


Apologies is this sounds like a bit of a rant and a story telling mission, but just need some advice I guess.

cheers in advance

GuruUK

GuruUK,
No problem man. What you are feeling is completely normal. I have felt like that before also. I was really good at a certain point in this PUA stuff about a year ago too. Im 24 and what happened to me was that I was in a 3year relationship. Then I dumped the girl and also lost my skills because I was faithful to the girl (I would not even flirt with other girls). I did not do anything with girls for about four to six months after that.
Then I found this community when I was 22 (close to 23). I started studying this stuff and going out sarging with my best-friend. I just decided on being pro-active in my love life. I set goals for myself and learned after every outing. Then I became really comfortable with socializing, something worthwhile in it of itself. I told myself that I want something and that I was not going to let anyone stop me.
Little by little, I was getting good. I mimicked other PUAs until I found what works best for me.
Unfortunately, I had to go away because I am in the Army. I had to leave my PUAing for another time. When I arrived, I was lost again. All my skills were gone. However, I noticed that this skill was just like excerising, that if you stop at a certain point, you need to start over again. It is also similar like excerising because I noticed that a PUA does not really start all over again, just not at the previous level he left. Let me explain:
When you are body building, you may stop excersing with a MAX bench press of 245lbs. If you do not exercise for a month or more, you will not be able to lift that 245lbs MAX as effectively as you did before (if you COULD even lift it). Note that you will still be able to lift more than when you first started as a beginner though. Basically once you exercise the muscle for a while, you will have built enough muscle that it does not just wither away. That is what I mean that you do not start from the beginning. You may not start where you left off, but you will not start like a noob again.
THAT was very motivating to me. THAT gave me the energy to continue striving forward again because I wanted to get to where I was at, and I also wanted to exceed that (which I knew was very possible). And that is what I have done. My mentality has transformed from when I re-started this PUA stuff. Why or how? Well because I have noticed my shortcomings and continued pushing forward so that I could get what I want. THAT has increased my self-esteem and given me the confidence to be better in life.
Best advice, go for what you want because sooner or later you WILL get it.
Best quote to consider, you miss 100% of the shots you dont take, so take the shot. You have nothing to lose by shooting, and nothing to gain if you dont shoot.

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This is excellent advice Lorenzo and is much apprecaited....its actually given me an instant boost, the hope that I will after work, get my game back to the level it was. 'You miss 100% of the shots you dont take'- that was also my quote ironically , but I had it hammered into my head, instead of on my lips.

Thank you Pal, just got to put some of the things into action....