I have a HB8 who is leaving the state to 10 hours away to further her studies, just wanted to know what's a good way to say goodbye and maintain a certain level of "feel-goodness" in case I see her in future?

If she's gonna be gone for a year, odds are you won't do anything to stand out in her mind. I'm not being mean, I doubt anybody could without a huge gesture that would generally be interpreted as stalking. Once again, no negativity, but let's be honest you don't wanna spend the next 10-12 months thinking about whether a girl is thinking of you. Meet up with her for lunch or something before she leaves, wish her luck with school, and leave it at that. When she comes back, she's not gonna think "who should I fuck first?" What she needs to return to is word of axocrust, overall badass who brings the party no matter where he goes. True story.

I'm going to be honest.. if this girl isn't your One-itis or even if it is, if this were me..

I would just go for it. Fuck her (literally) Now, unless this is the complete opposite of your goal.. it's always better to go for it and who knows, maybe she's up for it and feels the same way.. I mean she's leaving for a year. Goodbye sex is usually one of the easier kinds of sex to get.

Honestly.. if you don't care about this girl on a very deeply emotional level and she's just a Friend.. then you might as well just go straight for sex, what's the worst that happens.. she says no and doesn't want to talk to you anymore? Who cares, then all you've lost is a random "friend".

The truth is, chances are she's more than likely going to meet one or several more guys (she's an HB8 come on..) while she's studying abroad.. I say just put it all out there and go for it and keep the mindset that you have nothing to lose.

she is my one-itis, and one of the biggest failures with a girl i've ever had. we used to be FWBs and things became shitty when i became needy and i was LJBFed, and tomorrow will be the last time i see her before another year goes by.

Here's the complete story: the-worst-failure-ive-ever-had-vt98374.html (sorry i don't know how to insert Links)

A one-itis huh?

I wish there was an easy button or some "100% proof" advice I could give you, but from personal experience.. you will never get over one-itis or get over someone period.. until you meet someone else.

I shouldn't be bringing this up but a girl named Brittney was the first girl I was ever in love with.. she was so sweet, sweet voice, pure innocent girl only like the girl you see from the movies. We broke up and the world stopped turning for me.. no matter how hot girls I looked at, how many fantasies I had about someone else, she was in my mind and she never left. I was single for 2 years and when I met someone else it was like she never existed.

I know "Forget your one-itis" is the last thing you want to hear but honestly, you will spend the next year beating yourself up over this girl and thinking about who she could possibly be with. That's not exactly healthy physically or emotionally. If it was me, I would still just go for goodbye sex and try to meet other people to cure the one-itis.. everyone's different though but that's my personal experience. You will never be over someone until you meet someone else or find something else.

i am more torn up by the fact that i made so many AFC mistakes and became needy when i was that close to an LTR with her. i'm usually much smoother in situations like these but i just messed up with her somehow.

It happens.. I've done some cheesy shit lately.. you meet people like that.

Girls who wants to make you break all the rules of attraction and seduction that you find yourself making cheesy AFC mistakes. It will happen and there will be more mistakes made, that's what makes us human.

It's your choice to

A: Beat yourself up over the mistakes and keep thinking to yourself "why can't this just work out?"
B: Realize what you did wrong, move on and never do it again or at least minimize the mistake and move on.

There's no easy way to do it, you've got a long bumpy road ahead of you.

Bumping this thread

Keep it simple quick but memorable....and try and keep emotions to a decent level. It's about keeping your cool while showing appreciation and keeping a light on the relationship for it to grow in the future.

I'd just say a simple.


"Take care, have fun, and don't be a stranger."

Then leave it at that. It gives her a chance to remember your words and leaves the door open for her when she returns to keep in touch with you.