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PostPosted: Fri May 20, 2011 8:26 am 
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Hi guys, i've posted something about this girl ages ago I think, but things have changed since then and i'm just looking for some advice cause she's a difficult hand to play!

Originally, I knew this girl's friend through facebook, I then saw her tagged in a few of her photos and thought "wow!" so added her, like the creep I am. We got talking through facebook chat ocassionally. When she was drunk she sometimes text me saying "lets get sexy at mine" and stuff, purely innocent cause she was a virgin. But that to me was an IOI that she text me when drunk. But before I knew it, she had a boyfriend.. it was soon a LDR as he went to the army, but they stayed together. During this period we became fairly good friends (despite never meeting) and told each other a fair bit about ourselves.

She used to tell me about how her BF took her for granted and would rather see his mates (LJBF?) and I used to comfort her.

After 6 months, they split up. He dumped her saying it wasn't working.. her mind was all over the place and she was on about losing weight (sigh..), I offered to take her out, but made the mistake of saying "don't worry, just as friends", to which she replied "yeah obviously, we're just mates".

I drove to hers and picked her up.. we then went to a pub, got food, had a few cocktails each and I drove her home. I tried a bit of push-pull and tried to be a little cocky-flirty, but she seemed very shy in real life (lack of eye contact etc). She spoke about her ex a little and still seemed a bit oneitis'ed, so I didn't try and k-close (like the idiot I am).

She THEN told me that I should of k-closed her, as "things had changed since she said we were just friends as she wasnt attached anymore".. so we were going to meet up again. She invited me round her's, even though her family was in. I never went as I was ill, and nothing happened that week.

She drunk text me a few more times, and then said she needed to speak to me a couple of days after she went on a night out. I was like "sure, go for it".. she then told me she thought she had a one-night stand but couldn't remember (bullshit), and was only telling me as only i'd understand. I had a bit of a go at her saying she was silly, to which she flipped out at and said "i knew i shouldn't of told you, don't speak to me again."

I rang her, and text her, like an idiot, and got nothing back.

Last night she text me at 01:31 (drunk) saying "I miss talkin to you xx"

She did this 2 weeks ago, to which I replied "drunk yesterday were we? ;)" and I got nothing back when sober.

She goes to Uni in September - I want to f-close her before that... what do I do? Do I text back, if so, how?

She's not very forward, so i'd have to work for it.. I just don't see how I can do it. She seemed genuinely interested (texting me first, which for her is quite a big thing) just after we met.. but I feel like i'm back at square one.

(sorry for the essay, but she's soooo fit!) x

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PostPosted: Fri May 20, 2011 8:46 am 
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Well, what a messy situation you got there... not sure if she considers you as friend or boyfriend material. You kino alot?

You had a go at her? as in... You got angry at her..? you got a bit jealous...? Ever considered she was testing you out?

The right solution for that situation would've been to be non judgemental,not touched by any of it.Now she txts you back saying i miss talking to you... ok, seems like ur not lost...

Not sure what your reaction was... but you can say something in the lines of, you're right, my reaction wasn't really appropriate, but so wasn't yours.

or, so you think you deserve a second chance... that's going to be a good backrub. ;)

Be happy, untouched, and test where you at on the friendzone...get it a little sexual...

But hey, this is just my opinion ;)


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PostPosted: Fri May 20, 2011 8:59 am 
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I just said "you're stupid, you could be pregnant and you can't even remember what you were doing" etc etc.. that's literally all I said, and all I could say cause she ignored me from then onwards and went offline!

My kino's been very light cause she's very closed off, the thing is I think she's got a bit of a "anything goes" attitude now, cause she's just come out of a 6 month relationship and wants to enjoy herself before uni.

Thanks for your ideas! Any more?

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I just said "you're stupid, you could be pregnant and you can't even remember what you were doing" etc etc.. that's literally all I said, and all I could say cause she ignored me from then onwards and went offline!

My kino's been very light cause she's very closed off, the thing is I think she's got a bit of a "anything goes" attitude now, cause she's just come out of a 6 month relationship and wants to enjoy herself before uni.

Thanks for your ideas! Any more?
Well, what keeps you back taking her out and closing her? If she's got the anything goes attitude!


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You are too afraid to take risks becuase shes hot and you are just honored that she is even talking to you.

You are her orbiter right now. She tells you how she feels while she fucks some other guy. Dude get your balls back. If you say something stick to it. Right now you are her friend, and she sees you in the friend zone, shes been manipulating you with small crumbs of "naughty" comments so you'd keep suckin up to her and making her feel good hoping one day she'll go like aw what a nice guy maybe we should have sex.

I think this is beyond repair your personality in her mind is just not fuckable and a sudden shift in how you are is just weird. So just say fuck it and never contact her again or stay friends with her and use her as a dhv to pick up some other chicks.

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PostPosted: Fri May 20, 2011 10:06 am 
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@P1nkstar - nothing stops me I suppose, although it'd be a little out of the blue!

@fvckitimout - you might be right, although if she's texting me surely she's thinking about me even if she is drunk, and a drunk's words are a sober's thoughts, right?

At the end of the day I have absoluetly nothing to lose by saying "listen, i've missed talking to you too, i'd quite like to see you again" - do I? Worst comes to worst I get blown out and I move on. This is by no means oneitis and will never be.. I can take rejection here?

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PostPosted: Fri May 20, 2011 10:18 am 
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Yes you lose a lot you lose the upper hand. You are the prize remember.

I suggest you do a takeaway. Tell her that you're relationship with her seems to be lacking in direction, and that she seems to be hostile towards you when you offer your help. And then say "perhaps i need sometime to think to myself." what have you got lose? A drama queen. If she chases you then you got the upper hand. If she doesnt then you didnt mean as much to her as you thought. Move on.

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PostPosted: Fri May 20, 2011 10:36 am 
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@P1nkstar - nothing stops me I suppose, although it'd be a little out of the blue!

@fvckitimout - you might be right, although if she's texting me surely she's thinking about me even if she is drunk, and a drunk's words are a sober's thoughts, right?

At the end of the day I have absoluetly nothing to lose by saying "listen, i've missed talking to you too, i'd quite like to see you again" - do I? Worst comes to worst I get blown out and I move on. This is by no means oneitis and will never be.. I can take rejection here?
She knows this, since you texted her and called her, and she didn't reply... then you got cold on her cuase she didn't reply... maybe she felt bad a bit and texted you...
in my opinion you shouldn't give it like that too her, let her work for it...

Don't be the pussy that agrees with everything.


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