- I'll become a rich person and women will fall for me like anything
- i'll spike my hair up and women will start finding me hot
- I'll start copying this jock and soon take him over!
- Once I become a successful actor/singer/sportsperson women will
start accepting me for the nice-guy that I am

I remember saying a lot of these only to realize that becoming good with women requires none of these. They certainly help, but NOTHING makes up for your lack of skill.

Keep adding more

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Women are plenty, time is not.

Indinan guy! Awesome!

First off, love your food!

Anyways, it seems to me that you are aiming for something that when you reach it, you dont really need it anymore. Fame, money and spikey hair? Of course, money helps and fame too...

But the fact is, people should already accept you for who you are. Even if your financial status is 0, people should accept you. Because who you are is the one thing that people cant take away from you.

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

- I'll keep on saying stupid stuff to myself so I can dream of becoming something I'll never be instead of improving myself.
- I will not stop beating my head against the wall untill I get some common sense up there
- I will start doing the above when I finally get my head out of my ass.

No offense bud, just kidding, but you should forget these kind of lines because you're living up to stuff you'll probably never become or get and it'll only bring you down when you realise it, even if you're only kidding.
Setting goals you actually can achieve on the other hand are good to repeat.

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Optimistic?

Hey now! I have spiky blonde hair, dont be hatin....

Well all tell ourselves out own little versions of these things all the time. Being a 100% realist is no fun! I love being able to psyche myself up to go out and have a positive outlook on things and have a great time. Over-analyzing the over-analyzing isn't a proactive solution.

Granted, not to the extremes of being rich, super attractive, etc.

Simple things that give you a little mental edge and keep you on your game. If you want to get a tattoo or change a look because you like it, go ahead. Having a little flair is fine.

But to add to the point of the thread:

-I'll be "genuine" with my niceness towards women. Im not like those jerks.
- Women are only interested in the bad guys! I'll start being a total dick. Women will love me!

Although opposites, most AFC's feelings swing heavily one way or the other in the beginning.

The first two posters probably got it wrong... I don't make such promises to myself... I remember making them years back and still come across AFCs who make them. That's it.

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The thing that's wrong with those statements of when I do X, Y will happen, is that when they focus on external things (like the one's above) it doesn't actually accomplish anything.

You fix one thing and another problem seems to take it's place.

Why?

Because those external things stem of an internal problem.

Most of the time it's a low self-esteem. As in not seeing your own uniqueness and personal worth.

goal striving behaviour isn't rewarding, unless you're learning a skill.

When doing work on your inner game, try out visualizations and rational thought.

As for happiness, it's not something to be achieved, it's a neutral state.

I'll do what I have to do, to make it to the top!

* I wont give a shit what most people, especially women think, because I'll turn their negative thoughts into a crave for me!

Haha

Good post!

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Been there, done it, oh and still doing it!

: Blog entries@ http://kennyspuathoughts.wordpress.com/

''If I act rude and blunt on purpose and show no interest in women, they'll come running after me!''

..... Lol. Yeah right.

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Women are plenty, time is not.