Ok so I've been talking to a girl for awhile now, and she likes me. We've sexted and all that crap, and she was completely addicted to me because of it. But then when I met up with her today, something bad happened. I left her for a couple minutes to go to the bathroom, but when I got back a dumbass cockblocker was flirting it up with her and totally STEALING the conversation and interaction from me. I tried my best to not "try hard," but at the same time, I wanted to project to him that he needs to back off... too late. Him and her were totally having fun by the end, and they even left me to go sit by themselves. It's screwed up!

After she left, me and him were still standing around with a group of guys. He bragged to them about how he's such a "player." I told him to go play some other girl, cuz I was already interested in her before him. He said "You should've told me that earlier and I would've stopped. It's too late now... I've already got a date with her. I bet I can get in her pants before you can" and then he gave a smug smile and walked off.

So basically I need advice on what to do next. I don't have one-itis, but it would be nice if I could make this situation work for me. I've invested too much time in this one to let it fall through. I've told her that he was trying to play her, and she was totally shocked and said that she couldn't ever like him now... but you know how those things go. Help me out guys, with any advice that you have. Thanks in advance for any replies!

Well let me fix your problem because it has nothing to do with the cock blocker, the issue here is you. The first step to healing and learning is admitting. This is one-itis because you got jealous she was being gamed by another guy. You acted in a jealous manner and showed you were insecure. This is very AFC. At a bar and club, you SHOULD expect other PUA's or alpha's to game hot chicks, especially if you are in that set. It is your job to neutralize or counter those kinds of situations. AND THEN you worsen the situation by telling her that that guy was playing her? Oh man you've sunk another ship by doing that. You verbally said in other words, "I am insecure and don't want to lose you over to that Alpha Male/PUA. Please don't leave". You also gave her power and let her dominate your reality because you got phased by her actions with the cockblocker. Yes, that's what it communicates in her brain.

The most efficient way to counter this situation is to NOT tell the guy to "back off" or get jealous, which both of them you did. But instead, if this wasn't oneitis, you would know that at this point you should go talk to other girls in front of her. Show her that you are an alpha male with lots of women. That you don't really care if you lose her or not (The famous saying goes... You goto be willing to lose the girl to get the girl). Show her that you aren't phased that another guy is chatting your girl up. And that you KNOW, because you ARE alpha, that you can get any other girl if she decides to leave. This way you don't look jealous or needy/desparate. Punish her BAD behavior and freeze her out.

If you remotely want a relationship with this girl in the future, you will HAVE TO deal with these kinds of guys that will flirt with your girl. Because let's face it, even if they have boyfriends they will be hit on. And it isn't in your best interest to intervene and act jealous, be mad and get affected. Get my drift here?

You could be the needy, desparate, jealous, angry, phased guy.
OR
You can be the alpha, not phased, in his own dominating reality, has high value kind of guy.

You will either project one or the other. It is your decision which of the two you will want to choose in the future. This is the truth and hopefully you can accept my criticism because I'm usually pinpoint accurcate on matters like these.

GL with the girl

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Yeah I getcha man. I let it get to me, and I shouldn't have. At one point, I actually DID go talk to another girl until girl #1 left. And now it looks like the situation is working out... hopefully. Believe it or not, I think telling her that he was playing her actually HELPED me in this one case (that's probably like a 1 out of 1,000,000,000) Cuz she said she only considers Mr. Cockblocker as a "friend" now and she only likes me as more than that. I'm definitely gonna work on a more controlled mindset for the future lol. Cuz you're right, a lotta guys are gonna end up hitting on her. Thanks for the help man!

I know it'll be hard to watch another guy possibly take your girl but that is the world in which we live in. Even your friends will flirt with your girlfriends man lol.

It's all about how you deal with it that makes the best of bad situations. Next time you are put in these situations tell yourself..

1. I am an alpha male who will not be phased and be played by girls. I will dominate my own reality. I have lots of woman to choose from.
2. I know that if I act phased by the cockblocker, it will hurt my chances more with this girl. I will control my emotions and do what is needed to get this girl.
3. You are being a bad girl and I am going to punish you by freezing you out and acting like you are unimportant in my life. As long as you act like a slut, you will get this behavior from me.


Remember, reality is what you make of it. Control your reality and control the outcome.

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^ Thumbs up x1,000,000. That's definitely the core of an Alpha. Thanks again!

I forgot where I got this from (sorry for not giving proper credit) but it freaking genius. I used it on my dates that I have taken to bars and other guys tried to hook up with them.

Basically, you wanna tease your date in playful way to keep her interest.

Example 1.
You: Say to the cockblock: You met my ex wife, you know why we got a divorce?
Cockblock: No. why?
You: Is not because she is a terrible cook, is not even because she hit me all the time and called me names, or she would steal all my money and spend it on drugs, No, I don't care about all that stuff. We broke up because she was just terrible in bed.

Example 2.
Hey now, she goes for 500 $ a night, but see seems to like you. I tell you what, 10 % discount just for you. (basically, your her pimp and she is your hoe)

aha I like the first one. The second one is good too but then you should follow up with, "alright I'll leave you at it and get my payment once the transcation is complete. Pleasure doing business with you." AND THEN walk away and talk to some random HB 10 while the girl is looking lmfao.

Classic

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I don't know what "sexted" means but it sounds like something 16 year old homosexuals do and I don't like the sound of it.

The problem with your strategy is twofold. If you think "alpha" means being so comfortable in yourself that you don't have to talk or make an effort, then you are wrong, especially in this case. If they're flirting and having a great time, coming over and just standing there with super awesome body language not saying anything will hurt you, not help you.

Secondly, trying to "project" that he should back off is one level less stupid than actually telling him to back off. If someone tells you to back off and that you can't have something, what do you do? You fucking WANT THAT SHIT MORE.

My strategy is to come right over, be really friendly and warm, smile and say "oh hey there you are *kino*, oh hi is this your friend? Hey what's your name man, great to meet you *shake hands*"

Firstly, you force him or her to say they just met, which creates a bit of distance, whilst bringing you and her closer together with the kino. Also, maybe they are actually old friends or ex lovers and then you know how to calibrate the situation better based on what they say. Let's assume he is just hitting on her randomly.

Then you just make friends with him. Almost totally ignore the girl - it's like a freeze-out, but you're actually doing it whilst displaying high social intelligence and value, so she can't be turned off by you whilst you're doing it. If she starts to get bored and might leave, just involve her again in the conversation. But basically focus on him, find out stuff about him, and give him slightly condescending compliments from a position of superiority, kind of like talking to your friend's younger brother.

If she does involve herself in your conversation, try and share a moment with her, look at her, kino her, and then if he butts back in, switch your focus. If they share a conversation, make sure to break their eye contact asap by agreeing and then taking over the conversation again. You can use kino on her to assert dominance over the situation whilst simultaneously being incredibly friendly to him. Nobody can call you a dick, you're not telling him to back off and creating tension, and he will walk away thinking you're a cool guy and that the girl and you are together and he doesn't have a shot. Everybody wins!

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Hahahaha thanks for adding some wit and humor into your reply blondguy. It's basically like phone sex, and I've got her addicted and constantly thinking about the the things I want to do to her. Lol and good point. I was switching strategies basically throughout the whole time trying to find one that stuck. In the beginning, I tried going for the "befriending the cockblocker" approach, but it didn't last long cuz he went right back in to flirt her up again. Then I went with the slightly condescending approach, even using the Mystery "go fetch!" move with a pen I borrowed from him. The thing about this guy though... is that he was an endless ball of ENERGY. Extremely immature, but he never let the moment die for even a second to let me try and gain the conversation back. He was always doing something (usually physically) like laying his chin on her shoulder from behind to make her laugh, or doing something stupid like looping a piece of wire through the gaps in his teeth. The main point is that he had her interest and kept her laughing. Even if he was about as annoyingly immature as an 8 year old.