So there is this girl I dig and like.

I have asked her a couple of times we should go out for a drink but she has had something on and always gave an excuse which I find difficult to believe.

I told her that we should go for a few drinks this week either Tuesday or Thursday. She said that her parents are out of town and she has to look after her grandma until her parents get back but maybe go next week? I knwo her parents are away and also know that her grandma is sick etc.

Now I dont know, I still think she is brushing me off - but should I ask her again next week or just wait for her to ask? I would never wait for a girl to ask but she has kinda rejected my advances before. This only makes it slightly different because she "proposed" next week.

What would you guys do and how many "chances" would you give to a girl before you "give up"?

I am juggling trying to be not needy or desperate but also being a man.

For me, I give a girl one chance because quite frankly, I don't have time to put up with the flakiness of every girl I meet. Usually I will contact them 2 weeks after to give them one more chance if I still have some interest in one of them. This shows non-neediness and gives her a chance to redeem herself.

If you needlessly keep asking her out, she will continue to reject you. Whether the problem is external or internal that is causing the "excuses" it doesn't matter at this point. Call her at least a week from today and ask her if she has plans the next day. If you make plans for 3 days later, there's a higher chance you will get rejected. So always call the day before you want to hang out. Try a different approach on asking her. If she rejects say "Lady, do you know the meaning of persistance" She responds and you say "Continuing in a course of action... without regard to discouragement, opposition or previous failure". Lol I got tat from Hitch. But not, really, use it or something.

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I agree. I've always had something lined up. I'll offer her to go to the bar or the a club, and if I get rejected for a date/hangout, I always call her from wherever I am, so she's well aware of the fact I'm having fun with or without her. If you think that's too needy, then you can always say something like "Oh! I guess I called the wrong Brittany. It's awesome here. Haha Sorry about that, I'll see you at ****, later!" Just as long as she knows your not letting her stop you from having a good time.

There's a difference between neediness and persistance. However, I wouldn't advise inviting her to something all the time, then she feels like your needy, or at the very least you'd be her "last resort" on some night she may have nothing to do.

One chance or two, then follow up ten days later with something spontaneous.

Do something that doesn't focus on her, have a night out with some friends. When you're ready to go, just go, and tell her that if she comes, you'll buy her a pony. Something stupid & silly. Don't let her feel like she is the main event, she might feel cornered. Let her feel like she can be part of something.

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Don't know your exact situation, but it sounds like you've already blown it with this girl. To increase your chances next time, don't ask her to get dinner or drinks. In fact, don't ask her to do anything she could categorize as a date. If you ask her out for dinner: clear date and obvious motive = high chance of rejection. If you ask her to go cliff diving, go-kart racing, skeet-shooting, whatever you're into: fun activity without her having to watch herself = high chance of acceptance. Once you have her out, start kino.