Background story made easy: So she and I are attending the same summer program and we both live in the dorm. We've been knowing each other for about at least 3 weeks now. I have lots of social proof at this place since almost everyone knows and likes me. We have run together once before. Yesterday night she was going running while I was partying with my friends drinking and celebrating my friend's 21st bday. Here are the texts:

Mon 10:39PM Her: I'm coming over
10:43PM Me: ?? Haha, are u drunk?

Supposedly, she wanted to come to my room to chat with me after her running. But I wasn't in my room and she made it vague in her 1st text so I thought she was gonna come to the party that I was in.

10:45PM Her: Lol no RUDE ASS
10:47PM Me: U coming over to where? U're not making any sense, haha, lamey hawt (her nickname because she likes this phrase "That's hot")
11:14PM Her: Dood I'm at ur apt where r u
11:16PM Me: U saw where I was going, dork! Don't play goofy here

When she texted this, she had seen me coming to my friend's party but I don't know why she still pretended that she doesn't know where I was

11:18PM Her: Loser
11:20PM Me: Don't hate, hawt! And be respectful to ur coach B) (This is a reference to one of the earlier acts when we were running together, I was pretty much training her)
11:22PM Her: You're RETARD. K thnx
11:25PM Me: Forget to mention that I whip my female friends for rude misbehaviour, including cowgirls (she's from Texas)
11:29PM Her: Ha you're a joke
11:50PM Me: Where are u? U prob ran away. My whip is ready, just need a victim now!
11:54PM Her: That's disgusting. And RUDE.
11:59PM Me: Whatever, u're so weird! Convo is over. It's bday time, stop being a kid already, *her name*!

Sorry for the long post, but after reading this, I want your guys' opinions. Did I do something wrong in my texting here? She put CAPS sometimes so I'm not sure whether she was serious or not. Besides, I think she might have misunderstood my jokes about "whipping." She probably thought about it in a very sexual way, I only intended it to be mildly suggestive. Thanks guys!

P.S. I haven't talked to her since Monday night because I'm still thinking what I should do next.

Her: I'm coming over Shes interested and wants you
Me: ?? Haha, are u drunk? Now shes second thinking coming over
Her: Lol no RUDE ASS Ill give you another chance
Me: U coming over to where? U're not making any sense, haha, lamey hawt She thinks: Hes retarded
Her: Dood I'm at ur apt where r u Third time is the lucky charm?
Me: U saw where I was going, dork! Don't play goofy here You are getting no where GET YOUR ASS BACK TO YOUR HOUSE
Her: Loser Yea fuck you to Complete fuck up
Me: Don't hate, hawt! And be respectful to ur coach B) She doesnt care anymore
Her: You're RETARD. K thnx She tells you she doesnt care
Me: Forget to mention that I whip my female friends for rude misbehaviour, including cowgirls And you are horrible at it
Her: Ha you're a joke

Honestly if you don't know why this turned out this way...

Look up some phone game threads around here

Ah,

Serj got here before me.

All in all: You were shutting her out when she clearly was showing interest. Girls will chase you in life, yes - but they will not chase you like dogs.

Be an asshole, and this is what will happen.

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Thank u guys so much for ur inputs.
What should I have said in that situation? I couldn't just abandon my friends and their bday party!
More importantly, how should I text her now to fix this mess? Any suggestion is highly appreciated! Thanks a lot!

holsetymoon I agree that you fucked it up, but there is no ways in hell you should have dropped your plans to run back to your house just because this girl rocked up without notice. You do have a life, and its a pity you were busy when she came around. Giving in to her request would have set a grounding for further bossing around and control from her side.

When she said "Dood I'm at ur apt where r u" you shoudnt have made her look like a fool and called her out on her knowing you were at the party, instead you could have just played dumb and say something like 'im all for your self-inviting maneuver but you should have told me before hand! already at a mates party. I'll meet up with u later'. Unless your house was like a 30 second walk away, then you should have gone to at least say hi seeing as she made the effort to run over to your place (dorm or what ever).

you need to know when lay off the teasing. when shes in a fragile state be a little more gentle. Firstly, she felt like a loser rocking up at your place and you not being there, secondly you tried to make her look like an even bigger loser by calling her out on her being aware of your whereabouts.

I would call her...have a friendly chat, and then throw in 'hey so when you gona invite herself around again '....if she says what ever buddy you lost your chance just say, 'well its a pity you didnt give me notice and that i wasnt there, but im here now...and guess what, now im inviting YOU over'. if you didnt cock it up too bad she will come, else she will play a little hard to get and come around after a bit of persuasion (not begging, but persuasion).

Dude you don't understand text game. Your goal is not to be a complete dick to her. That's not the point. You can still be nice. Later, you can get into bed with her and suck her titties like I did two nights ago. Look at my recent post on the topic "Facebook." It has some good points and it's worked for me every time

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You could've actually told her the reason for not being available, instead of going around the truth.

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Turbo92: I sometimes make lots of mistakes on phone games, most of the times these are unintentional: teasing becomes offensive. How do I avoid that? And I did read your posts on the "Facebook" thread, very helpful!

Little Panda and others: I should have said that but I didn't. Do you guys think too much C&F can backfire at some certain point?

Visionxxxxxx: I will use your advice to softly mitigate the situation. I will ask her to go running with me tonight after class. Let's see what will happen.

Guys, I'm seriously thinking about buying the "B4 U TXT HER" program released by Christian Hudson. It's all about texting game. I have read the "Ultimate Texting Guide" by Tyler Tray before but I guess it hasn't helped me that much.

Has anybody read "B4 U TXT HER" yet and found it worth the money? Let me know. Thanks all again!

I don't think you really got the point I was trying to make...

I think i do, you were simply stating what you thought the perceived sub text was for each response. You were not implying that he necessarily SHOULD run back to his house. I was simply implying that he shouldn't have necessarily run back to his house. ie. our posts are not in conflict, but i can see why you thought that they were.

[quote="holsetymoon"]Turbo92: I sometimes make lots of mistakes on phone games, most of the times these are unintentional: teasing becomes offensive. How do I avoid that? And I did read your posts on the "Facebook" thread, very helpful!

Hey just think before you send the text. Is it something that you would say in person? Press her buttons, but don't press too hard! And don't send her anything weird.

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Weird is fine as long as its in context and stimulates her mind in a positive sense. I tell chicks the strangest shit via txt msg and they f*cking love it. Eg. she told me she was bored at home (i was at work), i tell her to do something productive like see how long she can hold her breath,teach her dog a few tricks, see how long she can balance on one leg for etc. she replies saying its impossible to train her dog, shes tried for 6 yrs without luck! I say nothing is impossible, i trained a goldfish once, taught it how to fly!!! she replied asking if I had to re-train it every 3 seconds (fish short term memory thing). For the next 20min we're talking about training goldfishes to fly, believe me shes not bored anymore!

Take her into another world, it can be outrageous and fucking weird!!! Think about how many other guys take her into a fantasy world, not many at all!! Be the guy that does and make sure she never forgets it. You want her to lie in bed at night thinking of the BULLSHIT you guys were talking about and how much fun she had while doing it.

I think the word you were looking for is uncomfortable/awkward, not weird. Weird is to be 'extremely different', or odd.

(and of course turn it sexual at any given opportunity, but keep it in context. talk about those goldfish having sex in the air while flying and how cool it would be if humans could do it while flying! you get my drift)

@Visionxxx
I honestly didn't put much thought into that post.
I just through the first thing that came to mind out there.
But my point was showing him the whole thing was a fuck up because he seemed shocked to her response

Serj

Latest development: I talked to her on Wed evening after a party! I think we're both cool about it now, as far as I know. She understands that I had to attend my friend's bday party. But I think she's showing some signs of flaking, including not replying to txt's, showing up late to social outings. Do u think her interest has dropped?