Background: i'm a senior from Ohio. Our school has this tradition of signing yearbooks. This girl, who i thought was out of my league (like wtf?), just put down her cell #on my page and wrote that i should call/text whenever i want. It's so random. I was completely caught off surprise.

Anyways, we have a formal ball next week and one of my close friends is taking her. But it's a weird three-way "date" between him, her, and one of her friends. I don't think she even likes him, that's why she drags her friend along.

Anyway, is this a big IOI or just like a friend giving another friend her number before the summer? In what manner should i initiate the contact? She's so fine.


Another question, I called this one HB gorgeous. And now, every time she sees me she calls me gorgeous as well. IOI or just playing around. How do i escalate? I think i can get her number easy but where do i go from there?

FYI, please keep in mind this and next weeks are exam weeks. Also, which girl should i go for? I'm not really looking for a lay, just some kissing and a few bases would be more than enough. Specific advice would be greatly appreciated.


By the way, a little info on me. I'm 6'3, basketball player. Very smart, going to an Ivy next year. Voice is a little light. Depending on my nerve/mood, i can be really entertaining or really really dry.

First, those are IOIs. If she just wrote her number and signed 'stay in touch' itd be kinda meaningless. But she made the point to tell you that you could call text whenever. That means CALL ME. In my opinion.

Now... how to initiate contact: I would start with a joke about how the dance went with the other guy, given the situation. Do this a few days after the event Maybe "so i hear you brought a guy AND a girl to the dance - must have been..... interesting, huh?" or something along that line. It almost implies that you're aware of the social awkwardness, but if you are wrong about that she will try to figure out what you meant and interpret that you were implying sexual things instead (ie bisexual, 3 way, etc). Does that make sense? I mean idk it might not be the best option, I'm not a pua, but its what I'd try.

Get some texting in first and don't ask her to hang out for awhile. Find some party going on and say you'd like to see her there. That's it, don't make it a "will you go with me" needy type of message. She just gave u her number so always sound like you have plans and you want her to come, but its not necessary for you.

EDIT: Don't talk about basketball unless she asks and never about being smart. If it comes up, like that you're going to a top tier school, just play it like its true but its not something you need to brag/talk about. That will make you look really good. Be interesting, but don't rely on your achievements.... just be different in a fun way.

Good point. I have a little trouble with the initiating contact part. Since I'm going to the formal as well, so its a bit rebundant to ask how it went. (I think we all going to the after party too)

Here's the tricky part, she doesn't have my number yet so shouldn't i introduce myself first in the first text?

My text game is really really weak right now. For people my age, it seems that texting is the number one rapport-building process. Is there any books or posts i could read to improve that part of my game?

Just start texting her. When she's like, "Who is this?", go ahead and make her guess. Drop hints if you like, but make it fun.

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Good link. Be careful though, a couple of those texts are a little wonky. I would trust you to be able to judge how she will respond and how you will take it from there.

My favorite way of texting a girl after I've got her number is shortly after getting her number texting her with "Alright, you got my number, but lemme lay down some ground rules. No calling more than once a day, and no calling before(insert time one hour after you've woken up. I.E. 11), I need my beauty sleep."

If she asks who it is, you can either make her play the guessing game, or tell her. I know that at my age, personally, playing games with girls like making them guess needs to be done carefully, cause some girls will just get annoyed. But that's just for me.