Hi all!

Early last week, I had dinner with a girl friend and her friend, Jenny. It was a very normal dinner with very normal conversations. My girl friend invited me to a club Thursday night and I saw Jenny there again. I thought things went well between us and she was showing IOIs. The only problem was I didn't get to talk to her more than 20 minutes because I was there with some other friends (guys and girls) who I had to tend to. I never got Jenny's number, but I knew she had Facebook.

The next day (Friday) after work, I added her on Facebook. Within an hour, she accepted.

The next day (Saturday) afternoon, I sent her this message:

hey korean girl, how was your first vaccine injection on your guinea pig patient while you were hungover? fast or slow? man, i wouldn't want to be him haha. so when do i get my free korean bbq dinner? i'm not going to forget your promise!

Her response within one hour:

dude im not korean! i'm chinese just like you! hahaa.. it went okay.. i just wanted to get it over with. my partner on the other hand, man handled me.. that prick. anyways.. why did i promise you korean bbq again? I thought you just happened to smell like it.. ahhh i don't remember! haha.

My response five hours later:

come on, "___ is a korean last name." :p who was your partner? that guy Brad? do you have a big fat ugly bruise on your arm? omg you're such an indian giver. you can't just promise and then take it back haha. okok i know you're poor. how about i pay for the bbq and you get the drinks afterwards... see how nice i am? :p oh, my friends are rolling out to a club tonight. you should come. feel free to invite your friends... i asked our friend, but apparently she doesn't feel too good. text me [my phone number]. OH OH OHH, it just crossed my mind why you hate korean. a korean ex-bf must have broke your heart muahahaha.

Her response two hours later:

___ is like ___ and ___... it's chineseeeeeeee. haha.. nooo.. i don't hate koreans.. no guy's ever broken up with me.. nor have a dated a korean! i really don't remember why i said i owed you food, so if you explain to me, maybe just maybe i will buy you food. coz food is cheaper than alcohol ;p and no clubbing tonight for me. i'm sick too.. and my parents are in town! but have fun!!

So the next day (Sunday) in the early evening, I write:

uggghhh i'm clubbed out for the weekend. u're sick too? wat kind of germs are u girls passing to each other? :p ahhh mommy and daddy are visiting their baby girl all the way from [other country]... how cute. r they telling u to do dis and dat? how long r they in town for? u owe me food cuz u love me sooooooo much and u wouldn't want me to starve. :p plus, u said u're going to show me the tastiest korean restaurant. i'm working overnight thurs, but how bout friday? get well soon!

Then NOTHING. It's now Thursday and I haven't heard a peep. Where did I go wrong? Should I have never started a conversation on Facebook? Should I have moved the conversation to another platform quicker? Was I too nice? Is she too sick to reply? Is our mutual friend an obstacle?

Most importantly, WHAT IS THE NEXT STEP?

Any constructive criticism or advice would be appreciated. As you can tell, I'm new to the forum and new to PUA in general. I have read a little PUA content online here and there.

Btw, if anyone is interested in sarging, particularly at Asian clubs, I'd be interested. Thanks!

James

LIAR!

Haha,

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Haha, I really couldn't post, but then I realized it's because I had three w's in a row, so the forum thought I was posting an URL. Sorry! Anyway, what I really wanted to post was my predicament, which I've edited above. Any advice is appreciated!

It might just be me, but it seems you were a little over-the-top on Facebook with someone you met for TWENTY MINUTES! I've run into this type of problem myself and I feel I've learned a little bit about how to communicate with girls on Facebook.

What do I try to do? If I don't already have her number, I keep things SHORT and LIGHT-HEARTED. I saw a little C+F in there, even if it was a little overdone, but that's good. However, as I mentioned before, you should also be trying to develop some level of comfort with this girl as well, and I'm not sure you've achieved that yet.

My thinking is if you tone it down a little and keep your messages short, you'll be ok. She may also just be doing a sh!t test to see if you come crawling back to her or not. Give it a little bit of time, maybe a week, and then see what she's been up to.

Thanks for your tips, All-American! Anyone else with advice please let me know what you think as well.

Seems like you are pushing too much. Try a bit of pull. 2 steps forward, one step back. Make her chase, now you are the only one chassing.

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I see... thanks! So is my situation salvageable or should I just move on to a new target?

There is nothing wrong to keep on going. See for yourself if it's salvagable. But don't let that distract you from other targets and don't get any expectations from this.

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stop the facebook game. internet is killing game.

but if u rlly want to sarge on the internet tips:
1. keep it short
2. time frames are very important, good work on that
3. get her PHONE number, not her facebook.


but if u want to get back in with her I would say you should go out with ur "girl friend" and jenny again, but this time bring a buddy or some other ppl. plan a bowling night. do wat u need to, except not baseball games! they get boring quick.

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Thx TheJ and dw3llz! I'll give all your advice a shot.

ya np. keep us updated and if u need more help dont be afraid to PM

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UPDATE: i messaged her again and got a quick reply, but nothing after my response. at this point, i'm not interacting with her and moving on.

good choice, if shes gonna be a cunt, there's 3 billion other girls in this world u can get to kno

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