Hi guys, sorry for the long post, I can't really summarize the context well.

Many years ago, I was a 100% geek, bullied in school by teachers and classmates, slouched away at the corner to avoid being seen and living in my own fantasy world. The idea that a person like me can even talk to a girl or get laid was completely alien to me.. Then I read 'The Game', my view of the world changed completely and I started reading about pick up. I wasn't afraid of girls or the world anymore, I could talk to them, I don't have any game, but at least I was a normal AFC of sorts now.

I guess many people want to get laid due to a basic instinct, a survival and replication need. I fit the description of an Unnatural completely. A host of internal issues like confidence, parental abuse, existential angst coupled with the regular modern societies', videogames, junk food, work, porn, hookers, masturbation, tv, movies etc have affected me like many others.

It's been awhile since I've gotten into pick up, while I have the tools and missions necessary to go in prepared, a major problem is the lack of motivation, the deep seated need that's supposed to be inside every man to want to go out and get laid. With the ease of so many other things and the difficulty of pickup and moving out of the comfort zone. Its so much easier to just give up or not care.

I've recently finished my exams, so now I finally have the time and no excuses to not do anything. I've thought about the reasons why I can't get motivated and I'm making some changes into my life. Its like the engine is on, but the handbrake is still up.

1) I'm adopting Mystery's once a week masturbation rule.
2) I've stopped myself from buying World of Warcraft so many times, and I'll keep doing it.
3) I'm guessing that it is easier to fall in love with girls or get attracted to them if I actually meet some. I'll need to get some friends or wingmen and start going out and meeting people.
4) Next is breaking down the limiting beliefs that are one half of the things that are holding me back. AA, unrealistic goals, outcome oriented etc.
5) Major lifestyle changes? My Team A friends are all really busy with work for most of the week and are in LTRs so sometimes they can't make it. If we do go out, it will be usually the same thing we have been doing for years. My Team B and C friends are mostly geeks and AFCs. Most of the time I do solo things like swimming and jogging or play videogames. What changes should I make?
6) I still won't settle for prostitutes and UGs though.

I'll stick to this regime and see if there will be any changes to my internal balance, hormones or whatever. I'll check back in a couple of weeks. If not I might consider seeing a shrink.

Any tips ideas or stories that you guys can share will be extremely welcome.

What I'm into is just going out and mingling with people to make friends and improve my social skills. I just go and be the friendly drunk at the bar (although actually getting drunk isn't advisable). I fuck up and embarrass myself all the time, but I learn a lot from it. No pain no gain type of thing.

Ok man... Sounds like some major Pain there...

You are asking us to help you with the motivation, well that is difficult to do. I think that your main problem is your fear of failure. You do all those things follow all those rules and hope that it will help you but in reality you just avoid dealing with the problem.

Im not gonna lie to you, it is difficult, you will fail, you will be humilited and feel like a complete loser... Good news, that is just the start, after that you start getting good and start getting those rewards.

Let me tell you a little motivational story... I know a guy, in a situation similar to yours. A boy, the underdog, picked on in school, hanging with nerds, protecting himself from failure by not trying. This boy spent years of his life doing what was expected from him, pleasing others, being the nice guy. Some people liked that, some people felt comfortable around him because he was not a threat to anyone, just a loser. Well, I liked him, a sweet boy, a good soul. One time the boy had a dream, his future self came to visit him, the future self being cooler, better, more charming than the boy ever thought he could be. Oh, I wanna be just like my future self, the boy thought but I do not dare to be like that. I can not pretend to be cool since Im not. I do not have the right to rise above my level. The years passed and the boy slowly realized that the only one who could possibly know what "his level" was was himself. He started tearing down the protective walls prepared to find all kinds of horrors on the other side. Surprisingly the boy found that people accepted his new behaviour, not a single person thought that he raised above his level... He acted his part and obviously he was worth it.
Not long ago the boy threw a coin into a magic fountain and made a wish, he wished to be irresistable to women. One day later he bought his copy of the game... Who was the boy? Me.

Bottom line, you are the only one who can know your rights and value. Motivation, you are claiming what is rightly yours, control of your own life. To be able to live without fear of failure, fear of loneliness and fear of being socially unacceptable, is that not something worth fighting for. Is that not a priority over avoiding situations where you might feel like a loser. Anyway dont you feel like a loser just for doing that? I did...

Ezo

reading other peoples stories is so motivating.
thanks for telling them

hi ninja,

i get exactly where you are coming from. Yeah, bullied by everybody, ridiculed by everybody- my family included and told constantly that I was fucking useless.
My self esteem was into negative numbers. I would have done myself if I had had the balls.
anyway,

I also read mysterys book and that perhaps was a true turning point in my life.
I took the suggestion, go out even if it means on your own.

I started to go out on my own. I don't think that now I would even recognise myself of before.

The first time i went out, holy shit, I walked past the club, the bouncers looked at me and I thought fuck, can I go home please? Anyway, I sat in the bar like an AFC for about 2 hours and left. You see I dont know, I am just a natural geek and people naturally seem to smile and then either ignore I am there or make some lame statement and look the other way. the bottom line, i drove people away from me, my mind set driving them away, I felt like a social misfit, a naturally unpopular and rejected person. i stopped having a social circle and just kept to myslef because i thought that i was "useless" so therefore the best i could do to save myself the pain was just to avoid people.


anyway dude, you can do it and you can slowly get out there. it takes some time and it hurts like a son of a bitch but you can do it. Read, if you have the time, my field report number 6 i called it light at the end of the tunnel. I have been out just 6 times sarging on my own. read it and although I am nowhere near where I want to be. i feel hope and Jesus its been a long time coming.

I'm not sure if you actually meant that for the thread starter.

PUA is so great cause not only does it help guys get girls but it helps them turn their lives around in everything else.

Have some patience. Everything you wrote is perfect and you are clearly on your way.

1. Many people can't even admit to themselves that they actually want something.

You've identified it.

2. Many people can't even admit to themselves their weaknesses.

You've found them.

3. Many people can't strategize because they can't figure out the relationship between where they want to be and where they are currently.

You've nailed it.

4. Many people can't strategize so they can't possibly come up with an action plan.

Again . . . you've nailed it.

5. If they can strategize, many people can't stick with it.

You've stated you'll go through with the plan you have.

You are waaaay ahead of the curve. Based on what you wrote, I'd say you're beyond well more than half of posters here and I mean that sincerely. Why? Because you have yourself a formula that you strategically created for YOU. Your first success using this formula will let you know that all you need to do is continue repeating it. You are a player . . . and you don't even know it.

Read the other posts here. Guys ask random questions about one particular girl not realizing that their fundamental issues lie in themselves. Sure, some guys will get lucky but they can't repeat it. They'll be back here with another girl asking some other random question.

For now, all I can recommend is to again, have some patience and take one chunk at a time. GET OUT THERE! Meet people . . . connect. Think "Open and be friendly only". This is very easy. Can you ask a cab driver to take you somewhere? Can you ask a waitress for a cup of coffee? Meeting girls is ABSOLUTELY no different. Just get to that point where you realize this. Open, be friendly, then say "have a nice day". These little "successes" will absolutely drive your confidence way up.

Then move on to routines, closes, etc . . .

Shrink? Are you kidding me? You know yourself very, very well . . .