I have been told to qualify the girl and then IOI her but isn't qualifying rapport seeking because you are asking a lot questions and what should you do if she fails to qualify?

If she fails to qualify then answer your own question the way you would and keep on seducing.


And it shouldn't be a lot of questions anyway, you should always be having a flowing conversation like you would with a family or friend. Qualifying can be a simple "I get the feeling that you’re job doesn’t completely fulfil you creatively. Do you have a passion outside of work?"


Now you just let her answer but dig deeper about what she says.

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You qualify a girl for a few reasons.

Primarily, you're doing so to weed-out/filter the girls worthy of hanging out with and getting to know better, from those who aren't worth the time.

Women often qualify men, for the very same reason. A lot of guys unfortunately do not know what they're looking for beyond nice tits and/or a nice ass, so if they're qualifying a girl, they're doing so as part of a PUA technique and entirely out of the wrong energy.

A result of qualifying of course is getting information about her, and u'll know if there's a lot of friction between your lifestyles or not. Attraction is often built simply through listening, and being an ATTENTIVE listener. Talk less, listen more - you've got 2 ears but one month for a reason.

Qualifying is also sub communicating you have standards, and its a natural tendency for one to become the 'interviewee' if there's any sort of interest. So in a sense by qualifying you're both generating interest, AND its a compliance test of sorts due to the fact that if she's interested she'll eagerly respond to your questions; if she's not u'll get short/trite responses, or an "I gotta go" reply.

Qualify in a fun way, otherwise it'll seem like a job interview, or the interest may wane quickly in the course of the conversation. For example, rather than ask "what do you do for work?", you can say "you seem like the feisty type, are you a door man at a strip bar by any chance?", or you can use immediacy, which is reading her body language and making a statement about it "when you told me about dancing your face lit up, like the little girl in you came out that very moment" ... bottom line is people (especially women) LOVEEEEEE talking about themselves, and tend to like people who like them and are naturally inquisitive to know them.

No, asking her what she does for a living and her fav food is seeking rapport

If you ask if she a good cook and ask if she was to impress you, what would she make? - See the difference?

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No, asking her what she does for a living and her fav food is seeking rapport

If you ask if she a good cook and ask if she was to impress you, what would she make? - See the difference?

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No, asking her what she does for a living and her fav food is seeking rapport

If you ask if she a good cook and ask if she was to impress you, what would she make? - See the difference?

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USER HAS BEEN BANNED FOR REPEATEDLY IGNORING MOD WARNINGS AND MULTIPLE RULE VIOLATIONS

If she fails to qualify then she doesn't possess a quality you admire. Qualification isn't a magic trick, it's finding stuff you like about people so you can find out how easy they could mesh with you. Letting someone know they qualify is just how you validate someone so they know you accept and admire the things you like.