Here's what I'm reading. "I'm comfortable enough to talk to girls during the day and get numbers, but going to bars or clubs are not in my comfort zone." I'm guessing that the problem is that you've realized that you are a good talker and it doesn't translate over to bars/clubs, so talking is no longer a strength.
Here's a post from another thread
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As other posters have already pointed out, you should be able to adapt your approach depending on the situation. For simplicity though, I go under the radar by using nonverbal escalation techniques and so much less of those direct verbal techniques unless:
1. The girl opened me first.
2. The girl touched me first.
3. The girl gave me a set of approach invites.
For instance:
1. I don't do those gay tap on the shoulders or arm kino on girls. That's indirect nonverbal gaming. A direct nonverbal kino which is still under the radar is shaking hands with a girl, not letting her hand go for a couple of minutes, pulling her body closer through her hand, and so on. Then I calibrate. Two steps forward for every one step back. I do this calibration rhythm until I am using the girl's hand to rub on my cock. I really think the proper escalation rhythm is crucial in your seduction. Likewise, you also have to be very careful on the venue so the girl won't look like a slut in front of her friends.
2. When a girl touches my abs and gives me an eyefuck for more than 2 minutes; I go direct verbal. I sometimes say things like, "I want to fuck you right now" and get away with it towards a same day lay (rare). The most effective verbal approach though is to simply say, "Let's go" and then isolate the girl to the f-close place (your apartment, a nearby inn or motel, a basement and so on.)
As a rule of thumb: Convey your clear intention through your nonverbals unless the girl is showing very obvious signs that she's already horny enough and ready to get fucked.
Here's another solid piece of advice from a different poster
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I find this is common to the guys who only do day game. They rely on verbal communication and they simply haven't had enough reps at escalation to be competent at it since escalating in the daytime from a cold approach is a much different dynamic than a club where the guys who are doing well with women, are using their NON VERBAL skills to meet women
I would recommend to have a few nights in clubs, make a promise to your self to not open verbally, only non verbal, then physically escalate
You can do this on or off the dancefloor, same process applies.
Last time I was in a loud place, I clinked my glass with a girl passing by, she reciprocated and then I pointed to the dance floor, lead her there and escalated physcially and it went well. It can be as simple as that. Non of this 'guessing where is from and what she does for a living bollocks that every daygamer does.
Try to be more animalistic, pretend you're a lion finding a mate, look at these sexy girls like you want to fuck them and LEAD like a trooper. This will change your life.
Get it done, you can tackle this sticking point this weekend if you wanted to by literally going from one girl to the next
I can vouch for both of these posters experience because daygame is my real strength when it comes to pickup because I have the personality for it. It took me a while to recognize that the difference between day game and night game is night and day (see what I done there?) and you have to develop two different approaches in order to be good at both. I had to step out of my comfort zone and that's what you need to do.
CHAT
