Teliing a girl you're going dutch on the first date



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PostPosted: Mon Mar 09, 2015 3:09 pm 
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Hello again MPUAForum,

My live in gf (X gf) of 18 months is moving across the country this Friday. Tonight I have a date (and another Friday :D) I suggested we meet for drinks. Today she texted me "Dinner with you tonight is the only good thing about Monday" Things are a little tight for me financially and I do not want to spend $100 on a first date finding out how compatible we are.

How do I firmly state shes buying her own dinner without sounding like an asshole, cheapskate, or like I don't have my shit together?

I used to know how to do this. My recent x gf still jokes how I made her go dutch on our first date. My reply waas always "you can't argue with success!"

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PostPosted: Mon Mar 09, 2015 3:15 pm 
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Don't suggest dinner... Drinks instead?!

Just pay, if you asked her... You're gonna cockblock yourself.


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PostPosted: Mon Mar 09, 2015 3:37 pm 
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Thanks Charles... I did ask her out for drinks. I met her online and don't even know if I will be attracted to her in real life. I have not needed to pay for dinner to get laid in the past and I am not starting that BS now.


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PostPosted: Mon Mar 09, 2015 4:56 pm 
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That is why I start small the first date. Drinks, coffee, parks, or anything relatively inexpensive. Never a movie. Worst date idea unless you guys are fondling each other in the back.

I am not spending dinner money on a chick unless I know I will be interested in her during the duration of eating.

Suggest drinks.

And you asked. You pay. Unless she puts in willingly.

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parks
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Parks man, you can't go wrong with parks, but you do have to be aware that some women have this romantic fantasy in their heads of being taken on dinner dates and swept off their feet by the man of their dreams. I've delt with many of these and the pussy is never worth the trouble.

Anybody else spend ridicules money on a date before with a girl you actually liked and when it was over you were like " fuck.. She's great and all, but I coulda spent that money on something more valuable"

Whether you take her to the park or you take her to dinner she is going to like you the same amounts. Her vagina will cream the same amounts.

The open evniorment for parks also provide a broader range of outlets for conversations topics. Its less free, waiters are around and there is a lot more added pressure.

But to answer your question; the only reason you have a problem with telling her is because of fear. You're afraid that she is not going to like you if you do not tell her. And if you're afraid of her, this shit will not go far. So tell her in the best way you see fit.

Hell, its 2015 and both parties are working, she shouldn't be expecting you to pay for dinner anyway.

You could even just do the dinner and when the bill comes look at her and say " So how much you got? " or " Are you paying with card or cash? "

She'll respect you a lot more if you let her pay than she would if you pay for a dinner that you can't afford or that you don't want to pay for.

Last but not least; if you can't afford to date in this manner, why are you agreeing to it? Maybe you wanna leave the chicks alone and focus on getting some money.

Back when I wasn't as financial I did a lot of HOUSE DATES...

Women would say " I'm afraid to go to a guys house on the first date because he could be a killer" and I would say that " Well I'm afraid to show up on a first date and the girl not look like what I thought. Men fear visual embarrassing women fear being uncomfortable. We're even." - Only when they would object, but you honestly don't have to formally date anymore if you don't want to. So long as you're confident enough to hold women to your new standards; and at that time (and sometimes even now) my standard was that you had to meet me at my place on the first date. - ESPECIALLY if i met you on line. I don't take those risk.

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PostPosted: Tue Mar 10, 2015 1:23 am 
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parks aren't so great when their is 2' of snow on the ground :mrgreen:

good advice in here. Spring is coming and Ill definitely be going on some park dates.


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Don't suggest dinner... Drinks instead?!

Just pay, if you asked her... You're gonna cockblock yourself.
This.


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