Went out to a bar with a girl HB9, went outside, threw up. Sorted myself out. Washed mouth (found mouthwash in hotel room near bar.) Came back continued date and kissed her at the end of the night. I didn't feel very anxious the whole night, until I thought I was going to puke. I enjoyed the process of the date and wasn't outcome dependent. I've been on antidepressants for depression and anxiety for coming up for a year and really thought I'd overcome the physical symptoms of my anxiety.

How do I learn to control these? I saw the doctor yesterday, he offered no advice yet continued exposure. I'm not sure how many girls have patience for me to disappear on dates for 15 minutes at a time...

The girl continued to text me, and took the mickey out of me - I'm not sure she knows if I was sick or not, she knew I suffer from acid reflux. She hasn't texted back since last night but I'm just going to give it a few days. I'm slightly worried one of my 2 friends I have told may told her I was sick , I'm sure they haven't though as I do trust them.

Any advice on controlling this anxiety?

My only advice is to continue putting yourself in situations that make you anxious until you become desensatized to it. That worked for me, though I never had anything close to what it sounds like you have. But you get props from me for doing so well given the barriers. That's a good job.

redouble your efforts putting yourself in front of woman, dates, and working through situations with woman that make you anxious.

Maybe take some smaller steps until you feel comfortable man, I suffer from SA as well. Just smile and talk to people you see around to help get over it and feel more comfortable. I'd also recommend reading an extract from Rules of the Game re The limiting and freedom mind which I think might help you.

If you type abolish approach anxiety don diego garcia into google it will be there for you

hope this helps!

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When i was a kid i would get anxious. Best advice that i still use today, if you're good at giving advice to friends and stuff when they need someone to talk to, just have an inner conversation in your head and talk to your anxiety like a nervous friend and tell him to chill out

You might benefit from speaking to a psychologist.

But in your daily life I would normally say be honest but I don't think everyone will understand that you were on antidepressants or you suffer from anxiety. Maybe you can have a plan of attack. When you start feeling these feelings excuse yourself and tell ykur date you need to use the restroom...to poop or something. I don't know...if this was anxiety that didn't involve medication then I would give you solid advice...but consider that a factor. Just my 2 cents

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K closed a HB7 today who I met for coffee whilst I was in her town. Met get nye. She wants to stay round mine next week.


Monday: 9pm
Her: Oh yeah! No dairy for you with the tum ofc.. Yeah..dicussing ideas on how to improve the shop, went on for almost 2 hours!! Haha ahh true Workingg away at the flower shop have friday off tho soo will try and do something fun! You?X

10pm Mon: me: Hahaha cheeky... Sounds exciting! Haha hopefully sorting out the tum Wednesday, seeing that Dr **** from tv haha - hopefully going to look at my diet... Then just revising for all my exams :/ Really? What are we doing Friday then? X

Wednesday (no reply from her all Tue)

Me: Just realised that kinda sounds like I'm going on <tv prog>... Hahaha I just booked a private appointment with him as we're both into weightlifting and he knows the diets hard on the body sometimes - I.e. The tum. Thought I better clear that up

Her: Hahaa okay fair! :') Ah i didnt know you were soo into weights! Mind you, you do have a good bod aha anywho... Why yo ring me? x

Me: Haha thanks! Literally just to tell you, I wasn't spontaneously appear on tv...

Her: Hahaaa okay, shame that!

Me: We should get drinks again soon. X

That was a less chatty text than normal. My friend suggested it. What shall I do if she doesn't reply?

Hoping to meet up with her tomorrow. Met up with HB7 Wednesday, and definitely 'manned up' told her to sit on my lap etc then kissed her, stroked her leg etc. Probably going to not eat very much tomorrow, if she's agrees to a drink.

HB9 replied to the "We should get drinks again soon" text with

"Yeah that'd be good x"

I replied, "Have you got much planned this weekend? X"

Her: "Only a meal round a friends saturday night, then a bootsale and country pub lunch sunday ) so a rather chilled onme so farr. And nothing on for tomorrow yet :/ You? X"

Me: "Sounds good! Maybe going to party Saturday night, but dunno if I fancy it. Hopefully catching up with a couple of people before back to uni on Sunday. Probs gonna be in town tomorrow eve, how about drink then? X"

I texted this about 10pm and she was on facebook about 11pm so she has probs seen it. Do you guys still think she's keen from the way she's texting?

She didn't ever reply to my text on Monday saying "What are we doing Friday then? ". I think I'm oveanalysing but I do like this girl. HB7 wants to stay at mine sometime next week.