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PostPosted: Thu Aug 14, 2014 1:53 am 
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I run into this one a lot. Sometimes when I tell a girl to come hang out, she would give me a "maybe" - most of the time I'd just say cool next time then and carry on. But several times the girls showed a lot of interests yet still giving me these half ass responses. Made me start wondering if this is part of their defense so they don't appear too eager or like a slut. And whether if I should give them a little push before dismissing it right off the bats.

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PostPosted: Thu Aug 14, 2014 2:09 am 
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Say "I can handle a maybe it's that no I worry about." And give a big smile. If she giggles or smiles follow up with "for real trouble give me your number I'll hit you up sometime."
If you number close follow up by calling her the next day to see what's up say your bored ask her somewhere on the spot see what happens.

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Made me start wondering if this is part of their defense so they don't appear too eager or like a slut. And whether if I should give them a little push before dismissing it right off the bats.
Yeah, ASD runs women's lives. It's rather unfortunate. Imagine what it's like to live in hiding in broad daylight, even hiding from yourself.

This is why persistence is key.


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I run into this one a lot. Sometimes when I tell a girl to come hang out, she would give me a "maybe" - most of the time I'd just say cool next time then and carry on. But several times the girls showed a lot of interests yet still giving me these half ass responses. Made me start wondering if this is part of their defense so they don't appear too eager or like a slut. And whether if I should give them a little push before dismissing it right off the bats.

Asking someone to come hang out is a half assed invite so it gets a half assed response. Why not just make a plan?


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PostPosted: Thu Aug 14, 2014 4:08 am 
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Asking someone to come hang out is a half assed invite so it gets a half assed response. Why not just make a plan?
What I meant is instead asking hey do you wanna come play pool tomorrow, I'd tell them something like "Hey let's play pool tomorrow at xxx around yyy, Bring your ace game!"

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PostPosted: Thu Aug 14, 2014 4:17 am 
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Yeah, ASD runs women's lives. It's rather unfortunate. Imagine what it's like to live in hiding in broad daylight, even hiding from yourself.

This is why persistence is key.
So Chief, you would advise to give them a little push? What would you do? Here's a convo I have with this chick.

Me: Lunch check! Send me a pic of what you're eating.
Blonde: *sent a pic her lunch*
Me: Victory is mine! *sent a pic of my sushi plate*
Blonde: OMG! Jerk. Now I'm craving some sushi....
Me: Don't forget the sake bombs ;)
Blonde: Never done that. I wanted to!
Me: Been a while for me too. Let's grab some happy hour at XXX this Thurs, they have the best sake bombs in town.
Blonde: Haha we should :)
Me: Kay meet me at 6:06pm then.
Blonde: Maybe.
Me: Wrong answer! I only accept yes or hell yes.
Blonde: LOL
Me: Kay next time then.

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PostPosted: Fri Aug 15, 2014 1:13 am 
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That's ASD, you're giving up too easily.

Obviously your text game is already pretty solid, so pardon me if I seem condescending.

Light and jokey - you're not offended.
maybe something to spark the ASD

Personally I'd go for "ooh got another hot date lined up have you?"
or "What could possibly be more fun than smashing a few sake bombs with me? Maybe I should come to that instead :P"


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PostPosted: Fri Aug 15, 2014 7:25 am 
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That's ASD, you're giving up too easily.

Obviously your text game is already pretty solid, so pardon me if I seem condescending.

Light and jokey - you're not offended.
maybe something to spark the ASD

Personally I'd go for "ooh got another hot date lined up have you?"
or "What could possibly be more fun than smashing a few sake bombs with me? Maybe I should come to that instead :P"
You're right. Maybe I need to nudge them a little harder. I used to push them at least 2-3 more times in the past but get them say yes, but sometimes ran into the endless circle of "Idk" "I'll let you know", etc... so with the mentality that there are bunch of other hot chicks out there waiting for me to hit them up and didn't want to appear desperate, I usually just moved on. Laziness got the best of me. Will give your suggestion a try next time.

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Hmm...I don't think it's ASD. I mean, it's a pretty casual invite. Maybe you're asking too soon, or they're not that interested. Where and how are you meeting these girls?


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In my opinion (ignoring the LMR) that's is a perfectly executed text conversation to get a date.

A good laugh, playful responses, showing what appears to be interest.

If the indecisiveness continues then we could be looking at low interest but for now we ALWAYS assume attraction.


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In my opinion (ignoring the LMR) that's is a perfectly executed text conversation to get a date.

I gotta disagree. It's perfectly executed from a game perspective but I've found the "let's hang out at x day at x time" to be kinda unrealistic. People have stuff going on, so I find that (unless things are in the super solid phase), you setting the meeting cold like this is gonna run into maybes and conflicts. That's why I'd prefer to ask "when are you free?" after seeding a date, and working with that, than assuming she's free at x time on x night.


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PostPosted: Fri Aug 15, 2014 10:37 pm 
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I gotta disagree. It's perfectly executed from a game perspective but I've found the "let's hang out at x day at x time" to be kinda unrealistic. People have stuff going on, so I find that (unless things are in the super solid phase), you setting the meeting cold like this is gonna run into maybes and conflicts. That's why I'd prefer to ask "when are you free?" after seeding a date, and working with that, than assuming she's free at x time on x night.
I've also tried this. In my case, it usually worked like 2-3 times out of 10. The rest, they will just be like "Idk", "gotta check my schedule", "maybe", I'll find out this xxxday",... then I had to hit them up again waiting around for them to answer which I found counterproductive and made me appear to show too much interest.

I agree with you on the cold invites part. I usually don't like to make plan just for them alone, so instead I do stuffs because I want to do it and invite them along. If it doesn't work for them, they do say so and I proceed asking them when they are free. It worked out well in the past, so I had no problem rescheduling with chicks that showed the interest in meeting up. It's the indecisiveness of "maybe" that puts me off since I have no idea whether if their level of interest just drops overnight or it's their AD.

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