Well the girl I was dating for about a month decided to go AWOL on me 2 weeks ago before her 21st birthday. It's really sad because I thought me and her had something going and I thought I finally was gonna get a gf but in the end I still get stiffed when she just dumps me out of nowhere without any explanation whatsoever so she didnt even give me any proper closure.

It's not like I haven't tried to hit her up. I've texted her a couple of times but she never responds to any of my texts so it's pretty obvious that she decided to drop me because she's making a ton of updates on FB & instagram but she didnt bother responding to my texts. Unfortunately I think she's dating somebody else now according to her instagram so that pretty much is the end between me and her...

Anyway now that she's gone I was left with nobody. Nobody at all. None of my group of friends that I always hang out with know any girls so I cant meet any girls through friends. I've tried clubbing and bar hopping SEVERAL times but it is always the same result with girls not talking to me there so I gave up in trying to hook up with girls there. I cant get them at school or work either because a majority of em are already taken in these places and they're only here to do their business and leave. I also tried speed dating and that fails every single time so I stopped doing it too.

So overall I want results ASAP and if possible I wanna do something this week. What would u guys do if u were me? I really want to make some progress as soon as I can

Umm... Maybe you are just not thinking clearly, but your question seems retarded to me. "Boo hoo, I have no options :'(".

It's a pua forum, you should get the same advice from anyone here: go anywhere with people and hit on some fuck'n girls. Duh...

You DO have three obvious option: 1) sit at home waiting for a random girl to crawl through your window to suck your cock, pay a prostitute, or grow some balls and put in the time you need to pick up girls.

Like... Seriously pal, what do you think cold approach is for? And if you suck at, keep on sucking at it until you don't suck anymore. Period, end of discussion.

That's cool and all but the problem with cold approach is this. From my experiences both past and present for the past couple of years... it almost never works out. Maybe there's just something wrong with the girls here in the San Francisco bay area because almost all of em are stuck up here and girls here never seem open to talking to guys that have no ties at all to any of their friends. I have a friend who has been cold approaching and day gaming girls for years and all he has gotten were fake numbers and flakes which is sort of understandable i guess because these girls u cold approach have no idea who you are. At least if you're introduced to her by her friends she'll be more open to getting to know you.

My question is this though... what's the best way possible to make friends with people who can introduce you to their female friends? Not even joking.... every friend I make is in the exact same situation I am.... trying to find ways to get chances to meet girls

Then your game sucks. Being a cool guy and walking up to talk works in every town, village, and city on the globe.

You and your friend aren't doing it right. Hammering away at cold approach is how you get good at social circle game too.

Like really... You blame geography? A city of some 2000000 people and none of the are getting together? The same girls you'd approach at Starbucks or the grocery store are the same ones your friends would introduce you to.

Blaming the girls, geography, thinking you have a special game that works differently... All pure AFC.

Sorry for the wake up call, but as a guy who is only just getting his head together I can tell you that if you aren't getting with girls, the problem is you. The good news is that "you" is under your control. Use that, man up, go out and hit on some goddamn woman. Share your results here, don't blame the world, listen to the masters, and get better.

Or you could do nothing, keep making whatever mistakes you buddy has been for the last year. Up to you.

No worries about the wake up call. I'm here to ask for help anyway.

Okay this morning I was getting breakfast and I put your theory to the test. I tried to chat it up with a girl standing in line with me at McDonalds when I was there to order breakfast and she did as I expected.... blew me off and didn't talk to me much. She gave me the "why the hell are you talking to me?" kind of vibe and it felt like she wanted to be left alone. It didn't help that she was checking instagram on her phone while I was trying to strike up a conversation with her and chat it up a little. I felt I was bothering her with the vibe she gave me so I stopped talking to her.

I remember a friend of mine told me that many girls out there in day game are socially awkward these days around here... especially in a generation where a good number of girls are hooked into their smartphones not interested in paying much attention to their surroundings. Sadly i'm not surprised because from what I'm seeing these days it seems he's pretty much right....

Throughout my life, I remember doing better with girls when friends of mine introduced me to their female friends. I got several dates out of it as a result of meeting them through friends.... which is better than any of the results I got when cold approaching girls that I don't know at all (none so far).

I'll be honest with you.... none of my group of friends that I hang out with know any girls and we're all in the same situation trying to find opportunities to meet girls. I really wish I'd have friends who knew girls that can help me but I haven't had the chance to meet anybody who can help me so far because people I know at work who know girls are too busy to go out and hang out with friends these days because in their days off they gotta be with their girlfriend or their kids.


In the end.... here's my question. What is the best way to remedy my situation if approaching random girls doesn't work at all? If that doesn't work.... then where can I possibly meet friends who have time to introduce me to their female friends? The bar? Clubs? MMA classes?

I bolded your problem. If you go into an interaction believing you will fail then 99% of the time you will. Your not even giving yourself a chance to succeed. I don't remember the exact statistics on it, but something like 90%+ of an interaction is a combination of nonverbal ques and tonality. If you think you will fail your subconscious and unconscious will work to ensure that you are right.

What you need to do first and foremost to change your success with cold approaches is to change your beliefs about cold approaches. Which luckily is pretty easy to do, it just takes a little time and effort.

First you need to question your belief that cold approaches don't work. Look in the field reports section here, or go to a popular hookup bar and see that there are in fact men who can do this... namely that it is possible. Once you've come to the realization that successfully cold approaching is possible then it's as simple as building confidence through building situational competence.

So then start talking to women while setting easy goals, go around and give women a genuine compliment, a genuine smile and leave... that's all. Your goal is to give them a compliment and that only. Move on from there as you understand that you can do that and it works out fine.

Simple and easy, if you do exactly as I wrote above and put in a few hours a week building your new belief that women can be talked to successfully from a cold approach, then you should be getting numbers and dates within a month and only going up from there.
If you choose not to do that then the older you get the harder it will be to find women as more and more of your social circle moves further away from the dating game.This generally leads to becoming more and more desperate and therefore less and less successful with the smaller and smaller amount of women available to you. I've seen this cycle end several times with guys who had decent success in their younger years eventually married to girls far below the quality they used to date, due to fear that they won't get any more opportunities in the future.

I'm not trying to build up or put down either path... just trying to explain some options you may not have fully considered.

I had copied and pasted these words from the original post before reading the previous post -
The Doctor nailed it.

The approach was a self-fulfilling prophecy because of your preconceived expectations.

If you had approached with a laid back vibe of entitlement, her reaction may very well have been completely different. Never forget that women are mirrors and if you have a casual familiarity with them, they are much more apt to mirror back the vibes you ultimately want than if you have a nervous attitude or if you feel you are bothering her.

As Doc stated the first thing that probably needs to be modified in order for you to start down the path of achieving your goals is some of the limiting beliefs you currently appear to possess.

Cold approaching is not only a great way to get good at meeting and dating girls, it helps in so many other areas of life as well.

There, the others said almost exactly what I would have, but with one major exception: I know I'm interrupting... so what? That's the point. If you are stop the flow of a person's life and inject yourself, you need a solid mindset. "I'm doing this chick a favour" works for me. I'm completely unapologetic about stopping people. I've stopped girls in the street and had them yank out their ear buds so I can talk to them. If you appear to have a problem stopping them, they will have a problem with it too. You aren't wasting their time, you are trying to grant them the gift of your company and find out if YOU like THEM.

It's hard bro. Learning cold approach is the hardest thing I've ever done, but the effects it has on your brain are truly astounding. Remember, there is no harm to you at all. Or to them. It's just in your head. Feel boss just for approaching and have fun with the interaction. Blow-outs are hilarious, and shrugging that off and laughing is outrageously hot to girls.

On the first sunny day this year I saw an HB10 crossing the street so I approached her, chatted her up. Financial executive in a gorgeous blue summer dress (casual friday) and heels. She liked me fine, and was being polite. When I asked what she did when she wasn't bossing the office around is when she dropped the fiancée bomb on me. She looked sad and apologetic about it. I shrugged it off. "Oh, well... I got to meet a great girl. It's good practice for when I meet a stunning single girl, right?. lol This shit ain't easy for guys, you know?" And that was it... Bambie eyes on a HB10 I stopped on her lunch break! So, I didn't get her. So what? I didn't see it as a validation or attack on me as a person, but a successful show of skills, a sign of progress, and that is where you need to focus.

Work on your inner game. Approach. You'll see patterns emerge. It's practice. My guess is that you and your buddy try to pickup girls rather than practice the skill. Cold approach is a method of working on your mindset. Look at it that way, and as your head gets more and more in line then results will simply follow. They have to.

Open and enjoy. Look at it later for where you went right or wrong, but it's not a reflection on you as a person other than the fact you are working on yourself for the benefit of you and the woman in your life.

If you don't watch RSDTyler videos on Youtube, do. Learn how to be an awesome guy with a killer attitude and girls will just like you. It's that simple.

Also... look on here for a wingman or coach in your town.

dude it isn't that approaching random girls doesn't work, the way you approach them doesn't work. Most likely you aren't displaying any value and thats why you get the "stop talking to me, nerd" vibe. Save a kitten from a tree, win the lotto, show kids a magic trick, do any of this in front of a girl before you talk to her and I garuntee she will at least give you her number when you ask.

Gimmicks. No need. If you are confident and cool, walk up without apology and do it just because YOU want to then she has no choice but to assume value. The hotter the girl the less often guys are calm in talking to them. That is the only value you need to show.

You need to show more value than being calm when you talk to her lol

No you don't. The only thing you need is a hard dick to fuck her with.

You are tellin me this Afc needs nothing more than to speak calmly to get laid? Wtf is he goin to talk about? You want him to calmly explain how his last girl quit her job and stopped talkin to him because he didn't know how to handle her ? Ha

Okay I went out last night and it was a disaster. all the girls I talked to in that club were too caught up and were too into their friends to even bother giving me a chance. It also didnt help that I didnt have much to say to them and I went out by myself. I looked like a total creep last night in that club....

The problem is that I have no idea how to bring any value to her or capture her attention for more than a few seconds when it comes to girls in the club. At least girls I meet through friends would give me a chance to get to know them and talk for more than a few seconds. Club girls do not give me that chance....

keep trying man. The fact that you went to the club alone to talk to girls tells me you are making massive strides in your game. read tony's lay guide. It has everything you need to know about how to meet a girl at a club, talk to her, and take her home.