Okay I've tried having sex with 3 girls now and each time has had the same problem: not knowing what to do, not enjoying it (no woman has ever made me come) and then losing the erection.

Last night was girl 3. First time going on a date, got horny as hell snogging her in a pub and went back to hers. Took things back to her bedroom, fooled around and then she asked me to fuck her. I put the condom on and went to slip my penis in but couldn't really work out if it was or not. I like leaned over her and started thrusting generally and at one point I thought I caught a bit of a nice feeling but then my dick slipped out (she had to tell me). She put it back in but again I couldn't really tell if it was in properly or not and after a couple of minutes my dick lost its hardness because of the fumbling around. Tried doggy also but couldn't work it out

She gave me a blowjob and it sort of hurt. Didn't feel nice at all as the tip of my penis is dead sensitive. Same with the other girl who gave me a BJ - had to ask her to stop because it hut. Clearly I'm the problem as its happened twice now.

Hand jobs are awful IMO. The girl can't do it like I do. I think why I can come when I masturbate is because the foreskin slides over the tip of my dick, whereas when I'm getting a hand job / blow job / sex, it sort of gets stuck under the tip of my dick and anything touching my dick (hand/mouth) is directly on the tip and hurts.

Guys... what the hell do I do? I can barely feel anything when I'm inside (to the point of not knowing if I'm even in), BJs hurt me, all the trying to get it in makes me soft and I just don't know what I'm doing. I was hoping it would sort itself out but 3 girls I've 'slept' with now and it's still happening. Need to get this sorted desperately...

this is very simple, its anxiety... you're anxious about having sex with a girl.

the thing is if you jack off a lot your have an expectation that the feeling of being inside a girl is the same as your right (or left) hand. and obviously it isnt.

the other thing is this your not going to be a massive stud the first few times you have sex, having sex in a sense takes practice the more you do it the better you get at it.

the best thing you can do is this firstly and most importantly stop jacking off this will increase your sensitivity,
do not watch ANY porn just stop entirely.
and heres something as well the condoms you are using im guessing youre using extra thick ones or the 'extended pleasure' ones..... dont. try something like skyn or real feel. they arent made from latex they are thinner and feel closer to the real thing, but are stronger then latex so are safer.

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cut the masturbation for awhile and focus on the sex. I believe you need to just enjoy the experience without trying to be a sex god the first time around. Every girl is different so you won't get it right the first time. Just enjoy each other for the night being.

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Cheers guys will cut out the masturbation and fight off blue balls until I next see her

Any thoughts on why BJs might hurt me, though ?

How often have you been jackin' it bro?

Daily (once or twice at most on a weekday) but not the day I went over for sex. Still got erect quickly when kissing

Leave at least 2-3 days of no jacking before sex.

Preferably longer.

Stop jerking off dude. Just all together... stop...

It's fucking with your head. Both of them.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oxwPnZ9uTpw

My grade ten art Teacher told us and I quote "Art is a lot like sex, the more you think about it, the more likly you are to mess it up"

Find a blank canvass use you'r paintbrush, and make a masterpiece!.


Sincerely,
Compass

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