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I noticed sometimes woman will test is to try to gauge how manly we are and if the stuff we say is bullcrap or true.
You're reaching the next "level." I tell people all of the time, the most important thing to have when learning all of this is congruence. You can fake it all you want, but you actually have to live up to the shit that you talk about after a certain amount of time... All of that is going to catch up to you. The cool thing is though, by talking about all of the "high value things" that you do, you will naturally start to do them. I think it's because you're making a commitment to someone besides yourself and you feel the natural desire to live up to the commitments you made.
I'll give you an example... when I first started each of my businesses... I didn't say "I'm starting a business for..." when people asked me what I do... I told people "I own a business that does..." If you're someone who's writing a book... don't say "I'm writing a book." say instead... "I'm an author." You're making a commitment and you tend to live up to the commitments you make. See... fake it until you make it.
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And there's come times where my manhood was tested, leading skills, problem solving, being able to protect her (I'm unable to make a fist from medical reasons and I'm not very tall or built) emotional strength (sometimes I get easily hurt or offended).
Your manliness is something you can improve. I'm not even going to get into what I think "masculinity" is because that doesn't matter. What matters is what you think it is... And notice, that all of the things you said that equal masculinity are skills that you can develop in some way, shape or form.
Leading skills: take on a role where you are a leader. Start a company, hire people, fire people. Coach a sports team. Be a manager at McDonalds... Doesn't matter what it is... just get into some form of leadership so you can get PRACTICE and fail. Fuck up. Do it all wrong. Get on your knees and blow it. You're going to learn how to be a leader.
Problem Solving: I don't want to say "create problems for yourself" but really, that's what you should do. It sounds irresponsible sure... But the only way you're going to get better at solving problems is if you have some problems to solve.
Protector: Alright so I'll tell you a little bit about myself... I'm a pretty big dude and pack a mean fuckin punch... However, I have quite the track record from my younger days. I've learned not to fight people because it just winds up getting me in trouble. However, I've learned over the years how to network with people. I now have a few people who will show up at someones door after a simple phone call with ski masks and automatic weapons if I need to "protect" myself or have any type of issues with someone doing anything to harm me or my women. You see how you can always find a way to make it happen? Even though you can't make a fist...
Don't make excuses of why you can't be a fucking power house of a man. Get out there and take a little bit of a "beating". You'll only improve yourself by doing so. Remember, what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger.
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