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PostPosted: Tue Oct 01, 2013 8:41 pm 
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So on the first date, I ask a bit less needy questions, like I'm not asking if she likes me or anything, I'm more dominant, playful and fun.

But I've never gotten to the point of being on a second date, and I'm doing a great job but I know it could be better. For example, my feelings get in the way and I want to ask her: 1) what she thinks of me and I wanna' tell her what I think of her, I.e. I wanna say nice things about her So she can say nice things about me that I so, long to hear.

It's like I'm alpha at first but then my AFC personality comes through because I don't know how to act after The first date. Like do I still push and pull, and neg and all that?

Obviously what's in my mind to do is, to just be myself and focus on having fun.
But these questions still bother me: 1) Do I still demonstrate Attraction, comfort and then seduction? 2) Should I tell her how I feel?

Maybe I'm becoming a bit of a wuss about it, I just never gotten to this point in game.

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PostPosted: Tue Oct 01, 2013 9:07 pm 
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Another thing I should bring up is, how to kino on a second date -- should I ever take it away and leave her wanting more? Cause I been on a second date and we pretty much hold hands the whole way thru, and I thought I wonder if this is right to let her hold onto me for so long.

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PostPosted: Tue Oct 01, 2013 9:21 pm 
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First date = good sex
Second date = regular date so she doesn't feel like a slut


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I'm on my phone so i'm going to keep this short and simple.

The war never ends.. A woman will continue to test her man 50 years into the marriage. Guys that begin failing a woman's test after marriage become their roomate, because the man's lack of strength causes them to lose sexual attraction for the male.

Everything that was done to spark the attraction must continue to be done to maintain it. A fire won't stay lit forever on its own. It must constantly be fueled. There's almost room for nice things, but this isn't a movie. And nice things aren't said just because you want a desired reaction. A nice this is meant to be genuine, expecting no outcome.

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So on the first date, I ask a bit less needy questions, like I'm not asking if she likes me or anything, I'm more dominant, playful and fun.

But I've never gotten to the point of being on a second date, and I'm doing a great job but I know it could be better. For example, my feelings get in the way and I want to ask her: 1) what she thinks of me and I wanna' tell her what I think of her, I.e. I wanna say nice things about her So she can say nice things about me that I so, long to hear.

It's like I'm alpha at first but then my AFC personality comes through because I don't know how to act after The first date. Like do I still push and pull, and neg and all that?

Obviously what's in my mind to do is, to just be myself and focus on having fun.
But these questions still bother me: 1) Do I still demonstrate Attraction, comfort and then seduction? 2) Should I tell her how I feel?

Maybe I'm becoming a bit of a wuss about it, I just never gotten to this point in game.
Game is a personality changer for life. At first newbies need the routines and gimmicky lines to see that it is possible to get girls (to get them motivated). But when trying too remember too many lines, a lot goes on in their heads and they start getting nervous.

You shouldn't be overthinking things like this. Just be yourself. If you want a girlfriend or something like that, you want her to like your REAL YOU right? Not some rare alter-ego you've made up?

Just learn how to BE alpha instead of ACTING alpha. Women have an intuïtion for these things, believe me. I've seen it over and over again. It's the PUA trap and you should find that out yourself. You have to find out how you can attractive, yet YOURSELF. Tip: Find the holes in your game that make your trueself unattractive. No fun hobbies? Find some. Life not adventurous enough? Do something crazy like skydiving or so. It seems uncomfortable, but that's getting out of your comfort zone for a reason. To try out new things.

Hope it helps.
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