I was seeing this girl for a couple months. Things were a little rocky, she took a week or so off talking to me because "she was afraid of getting too close" once and another time because she needed space. At other times though I'd wake up to text like "Just wanted to say good morning to the most amazing guy ever!".. Sometimes she'd even stay up till 3AM to to call me when I got off work! Think we went on a total of like six dates.

Things were going well at the time, in fact she told me she had a dream about us having kids together. I expressed I never want kids.. Ever. She was very disappointed and stopped talking to me shortly there after. She won't respond to my text and I found out she is dating another guy since July and they've been together ever since.

Ever since finding out she's taken I have regretted the way I handled our budding relationship ever single day of my life. Not a day goes by, that I don't miss her. If having kids would of meant having her in my life I'd go back and compromise that in a hear beat... And I feel like telling her so.. At the same time I could see how that would be a bad idea though, seeing that she is and has been WITH someone for so long now. I've gone on dates with 7 different women and none of them even compare.. I'd like to just wait out their relationship, but that could last YEARS!! She said her last relationship lasted TWO YEARS

One of the most destructive things a man can do in relationship to hooking up with a girl is to think too much of her, like when guys put the girl up on a pedestal and think shit like “She might be THE ONE” or “WOW she’s hot I would do anything to be with her”."I REALLY don't want to give up on this one! She's amazing!"

Slap yourself in the forehead six or eight times, and get the FACT.

SHE-IS-NOT-FUCKING-SPECIAL!
WTF? You have got to be kidding, NEVER Compromise!

Spending your life and your money on a child you never wanted. WAY not not fair on the kid or YOURSELF!!

All for a skanky piece of ass....

Have some balls Brosuf.

P.S. FUCK TO THE NO!

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If ever there was a case for dating other girls. There are many of them out there. She knows that you are dating others, she may start chasing you and it may be that you are no longer interested.

Hi there,

I've moved this out of the relationships forum -

Relationship Subforum Rules

1. Posts about how to get a girlfriend will result in a ban.
2. Posts about your ex-girlfriend will result in a ban.
3. Any other posts not related to your current girlfriend will result in a ban.

As for your question -

How old are you? (I ask because there's a difference between a 20 yr old not thinking he wants children, and a 40 yrs old thinking that)... How old is she?

Should you tell her how you feel? You're seriously considering compromising on having children for a girl you were out with a handful of times?

That's crazy.

The girl isn't special, dude... You need to meet more of them or start fishing in other ponds (ie: online, bars, friends, the gym, whatever) to make you realize this. She's one of billions - there are girls out there as good or better who do not want children.

Truth is you two were not compatible and the reason why is a pretty big one.

I'm 25 and she is 23

If ever there was a case for dating other girls. There are many of them out there. She knows that you are dating others, she may start chasing you and it may be that you are no longer interested.

I'm afraid I'll never reach a point where I'm not interested in her.. I've dated 7 different women since July and haven't felt any sort of real attraction to them, I didn't even have sex with any of them... I'm still a virgin at 25

Learn game and lose that virginity. I guarantee your perspective will change afterward.

That's a weighty problem in and of itself I'm afraid. I have high standards (from a shallow & physical standpoint) and I don't want to lose my virginity to someone I'm not enamored with, or someone I'm not 100% attracted to. I could have lost it to roughly 20 different women by now but I backed off because the attraction just wasn't there.

You guys are both young. Most girls her age start thinking about kids or having them. Especially if she's been in a relationship you said for two years. Also when you said that you don't want to have kids she split because she realized that she would be wasting her time with you. I mean lets face it, most girls at that age or just women in general fantasize about that Cinderella wedding with the big puffy dress. They meet a guy, connect, fall in love and then it's the guys job to feed the egg so they can reproduce and have babes. I mean maybe I'm generalizing it but she's young and I think early to late twenties is prime time for girls to never stop thinking about when they will meet Mr. Right and spend the rest of there lives with them.

Do not tell her how you feel or compromise at all. It wouldn't help you out at all. Move on, focus on work and you will find someone who suits your caliber.

-Best of luck

Can someone suggest something I can do to get her back? Her new bf plays in this shitty metal band that does local shows (only place they can get booked) and I've thought about showing up, looking by best at the bar by "coincident". Expanding on that idea I've even considered paying one of my stripper friends a large sum to accompany me to a show to act as my "girlfriend" in an attempt to make her jealous. Or maybe the stripper to hit on HIM, try to get him to be disloyal...

I always just mirror whatever she seems to want with kids. Like if she says "at LEAST 2" that means "3+!" to which I'd say "Oh, maybe. I think I'd want 3 or more "

Only way child plans matter is if we're getting married. As I state up front, that's very unlikely to happen anytime soon, so I fail to see the issue. No one has any idea how many kids until they hit the point in their life/career where they can actively say "In the next few years, I want to start".

Never understood why you'd do anything else. It's sort of like religion. Why am I going to get into that?
I mean I guess if I were religious, but as someone who isn't, why? Yes, yes I am what you are ^__^
Darn right, Obama is the best/worst president we've ever had.

Bunch of crap that people get worked up over, that actually has no meaning.

OMG! How can you can support forcing a woman to carry a pregnancy against her will/murder babies? Nuuuuuu!

Opinions are basically worthless. Worry about how you treat people and how they treat you, not what fantasies they entertain in their heads.

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Come to Chicago so I can slap you in the cock for saying such stupid things.

You don't just compromise with a girl you've hung out with 6 fucking times by saying you'll have children with her.

WTF!?

Don't be a dumb ass.

What have I done?! I broke down and contacted her tonight.. I just don't know what to do anymore! Online dating SUCKS, good looking girls rarely reply and after four years of the shit it just seems like work any more. I try to do day game and it's getting me nowhere. I've made progress. I used to be too intimidated to even approach and say "hey" or at least make an ATTEMPT at conversation, I can do that now... Now I'm to the point where I think of witty things after the moment is gone and my game is a serious work in progress.

I just can't believe I've RUINED the best thing I had going for me. It's like I'm living a nightmare, she was so sweet to me and everything I wanted. What if THAT was it? What if I've missed my shot at true love?? I have money. I have plenty of other girls (fat ones I'm not into) and don't a shit about any of it! I'd trade in every last dime of my bank account to be with her again in a heartbeat. If we were together I wouldn't be lost in the whirlwind of materialism, strippers and stress that I've found myself in. I'm lost and hurt beyond words right now. I need some guidance, any advice would be appreciated.

I had the same thought a few days ago after I broke up with my misses. Take off your rosy shades and look at it in a different light. You can work on your game and it will come. Go out there and take life by the horns. You will be happier than sulking about something you can't control. If she comes back then she comes back. If not, that should be okay too because at that point you should be in a position of power and can come to a decision.

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