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PostPosted: Thu May 23, 2013 7:24 pm 
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I don't seem to be able to approach when other people are watching me. When i'm in my local area there aren't many people around so i can often approach a woman when no one else is looking. I was in Oxford Street earlier there were so so many women around but I couldn't approach one.

Has anyone else had a similar experience or got any advice?!?!


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PostPosted: Thu May 23, 2013 7:40 pm 
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I don't seem to be able to approach when other people are watching me. When i'm in my local area there aren't many people around so i can often approach a woman when no one else is looking. I was in Oxford Street earlier there were so so many women around but I couldn't approach one.

Has anyone else had a similar experience or got any advice?!?!
Stop being so worried about what other people will think of you.... Chances are, you will NEVER see them again if you fuck up.


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PostPosted: Thu May 23, 2013 7:45 pm 
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The thing is I know that but it still bothers me


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PostPosted: Thu May 23, 2013 7:49 pm 
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The thing is I know that but it still bothers me

LOL well, step out of your comfort zone bro.

The chances of getting murdered in a human beings life time is 1 in 18000... dafuq are you so afraid of? :)


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PostPosted: Thu May 23, 2013 7:51 pm 
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This is a tough nut to crack, especially if you were raised in an eastern culture like I was. We were raised to act and meet people and society expectation, so it does take a bit of work to wire your mind around that.

This is why the 3 seconds rules was invented so your mind doesn't have time to think about it. If you see a hot girl, say hi immediately. Now you're already engaged, your mind will have to put up with it and find a way to make it work instead of giving you a bunch of bullshit excuses to psych you out.

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PostPosted: Thu May 23, 2013 9:41 pm 
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All social psychology students do a project on violating social norms. Look it up, look up YouTube videos, and think of doing something similar. It takes a lot of organization and some balls to actually do it, so I doubt you will, but something to consider. It will help you out a lot.

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PostPosted: Fri May 24, 2013 4:57 pm 
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Ah yes, social pressure. Nice. I had and still have the exact same problem but here's how to overcome it, at least for me. When you go out alone look around. You feel nervous, all these people judging you on going around approaching these chicks. It's not normal. For them, at least. But you, you are a pickup artist. This is what you do. Just like a tennis player hits a ball with this thing called a racket. How weird, right? No. It's just the sport, it's what they do. And this is your sport, this is what you do. Fully accept it. Yes, you are a pickup artist. Yes you go around approaching chicks because you think they look cute. Deal with it. Tell others in your mind to deal with it. This is just what you are doing, bettering yourself as a person, getting better at the game. These people probably don't even know about the game.

You, however, know it. And this is just what you do.


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PostPosted: Fri May 24, 2013 5:17 pm 
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Most people aren't paying attention to what others are doing, they're more concerned about which people are watching them.

If someone see's you making an approach and he's a guy then he's probably thinking "I wish I had the balls to do that" but secretly hoping you will fail to make him feel better about not having the courage himself. And if it's a woman watching she's probably a bit jealous and saying to herself "I wish some guy would just walk up to me like that" but secretly hoping it works out for you to keep her faith in the "swept off her feet" fairytale.

Sarge on mate: you miss a 100% of the approaches you don't make.


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